In article >,
"Julie Bove" > wrote:

> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
> ...
> > Julie,
> >
> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your chest or
> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
> > suggestions if we have them.
>
> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't eat
> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5 different
> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>
> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either canned
> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans either.
> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>
> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I bought
> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>
> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it would
> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong by not
> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right food
> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...

Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.

--
"Isn't embarrassing to quote something you didn't read and then attack
what it didn't say?"--WG, where else but Usenet

"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
> In article >,
> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>
>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> > Julie,
>> >
>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your chest
>> > or
>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>
>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>> eat
>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>> different
>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>
>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>> canned
>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>> either.
>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>
>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>> bought
>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>
>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>> would
>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong by
>> not
>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>> food
>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>
> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.

That would be my suggestion. Not only would I *let* him shop for himself, I
would insist on it. Within a few days of his being "difficult" he would also
be cooking for himself. There's always a can of Dinty Moore Beef Stew in the
pantry if mine wanted to act like that. LOL

Cheri

"Cheri" > wrote in message
...
> "Alice Faber" > wrote in message
> ...
>> In article >,
>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>
>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>> > Julie,
>>> >
>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your chest
>>> > or
>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>
>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>> eat
>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>> different
>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>
>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>> canned
>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>> either.
>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>
>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>> bought
>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>
>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>> would
>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong by
>>> not
>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>> food
>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>
>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>
> That would be my suggestion. Not only would I *let* him shop for himself,
> I would insist on it. Within a few days of his being "difficult" he would
> also be cooking for himself. There's always a can of Dinty Moore Beef Stew
> in the pantry if mine wanted to act like that. LOL

But he can't right now. And I won't get into that here.

"Julie Bove" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Cheri" > wrote in message
> ...
>> "Alice Faber" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> In article >,
>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>
>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>> > Julie,
>>>> >
>>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>> > chest or
>>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>> > don't
>>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>>
>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>>> eat
>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>> different
>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>
>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>> canned
>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>> either.
>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>
>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>> it
>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>> bought
>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>
>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>> would
>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>> by not
>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>> food
>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>
>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>
>> That would be my suggestion. Not only would I *let* him shop for himself,
>> I would insist on it. Within a few days of his being "difficult" he would
>> also be cooking for himself. There's always a can of Dinty Moore Beef
>> Stew in the pantry if mine wanted to act like that. LOL
>
> But he can't right now. And I won't get into that here.



Well then, that's a different story.

Cheri

On 11/11/2013 9:45 PM, Cheri wrote:
> "Alice Faber" > wrote in message
> ...
>> In article >,
>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>
>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>> > Julie,
>>> >
>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>> chest > or
>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>
>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He
>>> won't eat
>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>> different
>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>
>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>> canned
>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>> either.
>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>
>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>> bought
>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>
>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>> would
>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>> by not
>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>> food
>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>
>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>
> That would be my suggestion. Not only would I *let* him shop for
> himself, I would insist on it. Within a few days of his being
> "difficult" he would also be cooking for himself. There's always a can
> of Dinty Moore Beef Stew in the pantry if mine wanted to act like that. LOL
>

Damn!
And I thought you are only nasty to your online acquaintances.

"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
> In article >,
> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>
>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> > Julie,
>> >
>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your chest
>> > or
>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>
>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>> eat
>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>> different
>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>
>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>> canned
>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>> either.
>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>
>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>> bought
>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>
>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>> would
>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong by
>> not
>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>> food
>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>
> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>
He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me but
won't get into that here.

On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> wrote:

>
>"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
>> In article >,
>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>
>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>> > Julie,
>>> >
>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your chest
>>> > or
>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we don't
>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>
>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>> eat
>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>> different
>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>
>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>> canned
>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>> either.
>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>
>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw it
>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>> bought
>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>
>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>> would
>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong by
>>> not
>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>> food
>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>
>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>
>He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me but
>won't get into that here.

Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
being difficult to annoy you.

"Karen" > wrote in message
...
> On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> > wrote:
>
>>
>>"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
>>> In article >,
>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>
>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>> > Julie,
>>>> >
>>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>> > chest
>>>> > or
>>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>> > don't
>>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>>
>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>>> eat
>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>> different
>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>
>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>> canned
>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>> either.
>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>
>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>> it
>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>> bought
>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>
>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>> would
>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>> by
>>>> not
>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>> food
>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>
>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>>
>>He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me
>>but
>>won't get into that here.
>
> Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
> and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
> be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
> just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
> being difficult to annoy you.

I have tried that and I do tell him to shut up all the time. I do know he
is suffering right now but there is nothing I can do about that. I have
tried to buy/feed him only the foods that are purported not to make his
medical condition worse and perhaps even make it better but he does not want
those foods. Alas his favorite foods only aggravate the condition and
won't be a party to that.

On Tue, 12 Nov 2013 14:33:45 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> wrote:

>
>"Karen" > wrote in message
.. .
>> On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
>> > wrote:
>>
>>>
>>>"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
>>>> In article >,
>>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>>> ...
>>>>> > Julie,
>>>>> >
>>>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>>> > chest
>>>>> > or
>>>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>>> > don't
>>>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>>>
>>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>>>> eat
>>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>>> different
>>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>>
>>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>>> canned
>>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>>> either.
>>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>>
>>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>>> it
>>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>>> bought
>>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>>
>>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>>> would
>>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>>> by
>>>>> not
>>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>>> food
>>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>>
>>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>>>
>>>He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me
>>>but
>>>won't get into that here.
>>
>> Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
>> and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
>> be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
>> just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
>> being difficult to annoy you.
>
>I have tried that and I do tell him to shut up all the time. I do know he
>is suffering right now but there is nothing I can do about that. I have
>tried to buy/feed him only the foods that are purported not to make his
>medical condition worse and perhaps even make it better but he does not want
>those foods. Alas his favorite foods only aggravate the condition and
>won't be a party to that.

Sorry. I don't know what to say then. It sounds like no matter what
you do he will be unhappy. Just do the best you can and try not to
take it personal.

"Karen" > wrote in message
...
> On Tue, 12 Nov 2013 14:33:45 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> > wrote:
>
>>
>>"Karen" > wrote in message
. ..
>>> On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>>
>>>>"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
>>>>> In article >,
>>>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>>>> ...
>>>>>> > Julie,
>>>>>> >
>>>>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>>>> > chest
>>>>>> > or
>>>>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>>>> > don't
>>>>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He
>>>>>> won't
>>>>>> eat
>>>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>>>> different
>>>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and
>>>>>> a
>>>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>>>> canned
>>>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>>>> either.
>>>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>>>> it
>>>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>>>> bought
>>>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>>>> would
>>>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>>>> by
>>>>>> not
>>>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>>>> food
>>>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>>>
>>>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>>>>
>>>>He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me
>>>>but
>>>>won't get into that here.
>>>
>>> Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
>>> and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
>>> be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
>>> just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
>>> being difficult to annoy you.
>>
>>I have tried that and I do tell him to shut up all the time. I do know he
>>is suffering right now but there is nothing I can do about that. I have
>>tried to buy/feed him only the foods that are purported not to make his
>>medical condition worse and perhaps even make it better but he does not
>>want
>>those foods. Alas his favorite foods only aggravate the condition and
>>won't be a party to that.
>
> Sorry. I don't know what to say then. It sounds like no matter what
> you do he will be unhappy. Just do the best you can and try not to
> take it personal.

That is what I am thinking. But I just wondered if there was something I
was missing. I don't like fruit at all and I tend to eat the same
vegetables most of the time.

On 11/12/2013 4:06 PM, Karen wrote:
> On Tue, 12 Nov 2013 14:33:45 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> > wrote:
>
>>
>> "Karen" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>>
>>>> "Alice Faber" > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>>> In article >,
>>>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>>>> ...
>>>>>>> Julie,
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>>>>> chest
>>>>>>> or
>>>>>>> are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>>>>> don't
>>>>>>> knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>>>>> suggestions if we have them.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>>>>> eat
>>>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>>>> different
>>>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>>>> canned
>>>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>>>> either.
>>>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>>>> it
>>>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>>>> bought
>>>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>>>> would
>>>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>>>> by
>>>>>> not
>>>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>>>> food
>>>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>>>
>>>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>>>>
>>>> He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me
>>>> but
>>>> won't get into that here.
>>>
>>> Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
>>> and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
>>> be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
>>> just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
>>> being difficult to annoy you.
>>
>> I have tried that and I do tell him to shut up all the time. I do know he
>> is suffering right now but there is nothing I can do about that. I have
>> tried to buy/feed him only the foods that are purported not to make his
>> medical condition worse and perhaps even make it better but he does not want
>> those foods. Alas his favorite foods only aggravate the condition and
>> won't be a party to that.
>
> Sorry. I don't know what to say then. It sounds like no matter what
> you do he will be unhappy. Just do the best you can and try not to
> take it personal.
>

Now *THAT* is funny :-)))))))