jmcquown wrote:
>
> On 10/7/2018 5:08 PM, wrote:
> > On Sun, 7 Oct 2018 14:40:16 -0400, jmcquown >
> > wrote:
> >
> >> You will believe what you want to. Far more house? My house is not
> >> that big. Point is, you're dissing Gary for renting. There are reasons
> >> people rent. That's what you will never understand.
> >>
> >> Jill
> >
> > No one rents for fifty years unless they're scared of home ownership.
> >
> You're still ignoring the reasons I wrote. For some people there are
> many benefits to renting.
>
> When I'm dead it won't matter. I *do* have a Will which states my
> brothers won't get their hands on it. Aside from a few personal
> bequests, I'm leaving everything to the Beaufort County Animal Shelter.
>
> Jill

Family Feuds. Whenever my Mom dies, I hope it doesn't come to
that.
Also...I don't need or ever counted on her money. I seriously
hope she outlives me. I'd much rather have Mom to talk to each
week.

On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 1:13:56 PM UTC-4, Gary wrote:
> jmcquown wrote:
> >
> > On 10/7/2018 5:08 PM, wrote:
> > > On Sun, 7 Oct 2018 14:40:16 -0400, jmcquown >
> > > wrote:
> > >
> > >> You will believe what you want to. Far more house? My house is not
> > >> that big. Point is, you're dissing Gary for renting. There are reasons
> > >> people rent. That's what you will never understand.
> > >>
> > >> Jill
> > >
> > > No one rents for fifty years unless they're scared of home ownership.
> > >
> > You're still ignoring the reasons I wrote. For some people there are
> > many benefits to renting.
> >
> > When I'm dead it won't matter. I *do* have a Will which states my
> > brothers won't get their hands on it. Aside from a few personal
> > bequests, I'm leaving everything to the Beaufort County Animal Shelter.
> >
> > Jill
>
> Family Feuds. Whenever my Mom dies, I hope it doesn't come to
> that.
> Also...I don't need or ever counted on her money. I seriously
> hope she outlives me. I'd much rather have Mom to talk to each
> week.

Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.

Cindy Hamilton

Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>
> Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
> two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.

I didn't explain right. No...She should die first, then her kids.
I just don't want her leaving anytime soon.

On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 1:35:54 PM UTC-4, Gary wrote:
> Cindy Hamilton wrote:
> >
> > Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
> > two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
>
> I didn't explain right. No...She should die first, then her kids.
> I just don't want her leaving anytime soon.

Ok, that's more understandable. My husband misses his mother quite
a bit.

Cindy Hamilton

On 2018-10-08 1:36 PM, Gary wrote:
> Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>>
>> Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
>> two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
>
> I didn't explain right. No...She should die first, then her kids.
> I just don't want her leaving anytime soon.
>


My neighbour went through a lot of family crap when her mother died. She
had been caring for the woman and had a joint bank account with her.
The woman had $100,000 in the account and the neighbour was to share it
with her 13 brothers and sisters. Since it was a joint account there
would be no probate to deal with, and it would be about $7 each. Two of
the brothers thought they were getting short changed and threatened to
go to court over it. Any court action would have eaten up a good junk of
the inheritance.

On 10/8/2018 3:21 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
> On 2018-10-08 1:36 PM, Gary wrote:
>> Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>>>
>>> Why would you wish that on your mother?Â* My father-in-law outlived
>>> two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
>>
>> I didn't explain right. No...She should die first, then her kids.
>> I just don't want her leaving anytime soon.
>>
>
>
> My neighbour went through a lot of family crap when her mother died. She
> had been caring for the woman and had a joint bank account with her. The
> woman had $100,000 in the account and the neighbour was to share it with
> her 13 brothers and sisters. Since it was a joint account there would be
> no probate to deal with, and it would be about $7 each. Two of the
> brothers thought they were getting short changed and threatened to go to
> court over it. Any court action would have eaten up a good junk of the
> inheritance.
>
>
My middle brother threatened to contest our mother's Will, claiming she
wasn't in her right mind. Apparently he didn't think getting 1/3 of the
money and the pick of furnishings was enough. Mom's lawyer told him go
ahead! You'll wind up ****ing away most of your inheritance.

This is the same brother who tried to convince me to have Dad declared
incompetent. It's true Dad at the time had early stage Alzheimers. But
he'd made out his Will many years before, leaving everything to Mom.
This brother acted like Mom was irrelevant. He just wanted control of
the money.

My dad was still savvy enough to realize this brother was greedy. Dad
called me one day and said, "You tell your brother if he mentions my
*Will* one more time I'll make sure he never sees a dime!"

Jill

On Mon, 8 Oct 2018 21:08:18 -0400, jmcquown >
wrote:

>On 10/8/2018 3:21 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>> On 2018-10-08 1:36 PM, Gary wrote:
>>> Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>>>>
>>>> Why would you wish that on your mother?* My father-in-law outlived
>>>> two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
>>>
>>> I didn't explain right. No...She should die first, then her kids.
>>> I just don't want her leaving anytime soon.
>>>
>>
>>
>> My neighbour went through a lot of family crap when her mother died. She
>> had been caring for the woman and had a joint bank account with her. The
>> woman had $100,000 in the account and the neighbour was to share it with
>> her 13 brothers and sisters. Since it was a joint account there would be
>> no probate to deal with, and it would be about $7 each. Two of the
>> brothers thought they were getting short changed and threatened to go to
>> court over it. Any court action would have eaten up a good junk of the
>> inheritance.
>>
>>
>My middle brother threatened to contest our mother's Will, claiming she
>wasn't in her right mind. Apparently he didn't think getting 1/3 of the
>money and the pick of furnishings was enough. Mom's lawyer told him go
>ahead! You'll wind up ****ing away most of your inheritance.
>
>This is the same brother who tried to convince me to have Dad declared
>incompetent. It's true Dad at the time had early stage Alzheimers. But
>he'd made out his Will many years before, leaving everything to Mom.
>This brother acted like Mom was irrelevant. He just wanted control of
>the money.
>
>My dad was still savvy enough to realize this brother was greedy. Dad
>called me one day and said, "You tell your brother if he mentions my
>*Will* one more time I'll make sure he never sees a dime!"
>
>Jill

Sounds very contentious and definitely not about food!

On Tue, 09 Oct 2018 06:41:25 -0300, wrote:

>On Mon, 8 Oct 2018 21:08:18 -0400, jmcquown >
>wrote:
>
>>My middle brother threatened to contest our mother's Will, claiming she
>>wasn't in her right mind. Apparently he didn't think getting 1/3 of the
>>money and the pick of furnishings was enough. Mom's lawyer told him go
>>ahead! You'll wind up ****ing away most of your inheritance.
>>
>>This is the same brother who tried to convince me to have Dad declared
>>incompetent. It's true Dad at the time had early stage Alzheimers. But
>>he'd made out his Will many years before, leaving everything to Mom.
>>This brother acted like Mom was irrelevant. He just wanted control of
>>the money.
>>
>>My dad was still savvy enough to realize this brother was greedy. Dad
>>called me one day and said, "You tell your brother if he mentions my
>>*Will* one more time I'll make sure he never sees a dime!"
>>
>>Jill
>
>Sounds very contentious and definitely not about food!

Jill's always going off topic. Before you know it, she'll bring up
Trump again.

On 10/9/2018 5:41 AM, wrote:
> On Mon, 8 Oct 2018 21:08:18 -0400, jmcquown >
> wrote:
>
>>
>> This is the same brother who tried to convince me to have Dad declared
>> incompetent. It's true Dad at the time had early stage Alzheimers. But
>> he'd made out his Will many years before, leaving everything to Mom.
>> This brother acted like Mom was irrelevant. He just wanted control of
>> the money.
>>
>> My dad was still savvy enough to realize this brother was greedy. Dad
>> called me one day and said, "You tell your brother if he mentions my
>> *Will* one more time I'll make sure he never sees a dime!"
>>
>> Jill
>
> Sounds very contentious and definitely not about food!
>
It was very contentious. As if everything you post about is food. I
haven't seen you post much about what you cook.

Jill

On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 7:22:15 AM UTC-10, Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>
> Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
> two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
>
> Cindy Hamilton

My wife's aunts have kids that die off with alarming frequency - husbands too. I don't know how they can carry on - but they do. They are from Montana. That's where the men are tough and the women are tougher.

On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 2:20:58 PM UTC-4, dsi1 wrote:
> On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 7:22:15 AM UTC-10, Cindy Hamilton wrote:
> >
> > Why would you wish that on your mother? My father-in-law outlived
> > two of his sons, and it nearly broke his heart.
> >
> > Cindy Hamilton
>
> My wife's aunts have kids that die off with alarming frequency - husbands too. I don't know how they can carry on - but they do. They are from Montana. That's where the men are tough and the women are tougher.

My father-in-law was plenty tough. He soldiered on, but I know it
affected him deeply. It was the first time I ever heard him talk
about his feelings.

Cindy Hamilton

On Monday, October 8, 2018 at 8:50:11 AM UTC-10, Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>
> My father-in-law was plenty tough. He soldiered on, but I know it
> affected him deeply. It was the first time I ever heard him talk
> about his feelings.
>
> Cindy Hamilton

I suppose a lot depends on how an offspring dies. My wife's aunts kids were adults and died from disease and drinking. My wife's friend's son was in high school when he killed himself. We've been having dinner with them which, I suppose, about all we can do. I doubt my wife and I would be able survive if that happened to us. I couldn't bear to be with other people.