Melba's Jammin' > wrote in news:barbschaller-
:

> Maybe it was going to be a surprise party for the chef and she couldn't
> figure out how to pull it off without the serious help of others.
> I'm tacky but I wouldn't have the guts to ask a guest to bring the
> entree or the wine. Or anything.
> --
> -Barb, Mother Superior, HOSSSPoJ
> Huffy and Bubbles Do France: http://www.jamlady.eboard.com
>

If it was a surprise party I would have the guts to ask someone to pick up
a pre-paid (by me), pre-made meal for 20. If they were a friend and if they
had a truck or van. If the shoe was on the other foot I would be happy to
do it for them. Friends do such things for friends. But if it was my party
I wouldn't ask anyone else to pay for it...I ain't an elected represntative
or even running for office.

--

The house of the burning beet-Alan

On May 30, 4:51*pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> Chef's wife extended this invitation to my friend and asked if she could
> bring that dish. She also asked her to bring two bottles of wine, one
> red and one white. She specified which wines. *Then chef's wife asked
> her to bring enough of the meat dish for 20. The date of the party is
> also our friend's birthday.

I'm curious about something.

Did friend ask, "May I bring something?"

I always wonder if this is in the equation. If she didn't ask if she
could bring something, and chef's wife asked her to bring stuff,
that's beyond rude. If friend asked if she could bring something,
that's another thing. But, the expensive grocery list is way out of
line!

Karen

Karen wrote:

> On May 30, 4:51 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> > Chef's wife extended this invitation to my friend and asked if she could
> > bring that dish. She also asked her to bring two bottles of wine, one
> > red and one white. She specified which wines. Then chef's wife asked
> > her to bring enough of the meat dish for 20. The date of the party is
> > also our friend's birthday.
>
> I'm curious about something.
>
> Did friend ask, "May I bring something?"

I can't be sure about that, but I had the impression that it was more along
the line of chef's wife inviting them to a party and then asking her to bring
the beef tenderloin dish and the two expensive wines and btw... make sure you
bring enough for 20.

> I always wonder if this is in the equation. If she didn't ask if she
> could bring something, and chef's wife asked her to bring stuff,
> that's beyond rude. If friend asked if she could bring something,
> that's another thing. But, the expensive grocery list is way out of
> line!

Indeed.... way out of line. It wouldn't be so bad if she had been asked to
bring a canapés, a dessert or salad. I was flabbergasted that the woman would
ask her to bring the meat dish, that it be for 20 people and that it be for
the most expensive cut of beef. That's just wrong. I am sure that our friend
would have taken wine and FWIW, neither our friend or her husband drink.

On Sun, 1 Jun 2008 10:56:26 -0700 (PDT), Karen >
fired up random neurons and synapses to opine:

>I'm curious about something.
>
>Did friend ask, "May I bring something?"

Even if she *had* asked if she could bring something, you don't
inivite someone for a duck dinner and then ask them to bring the duck.
You tell them, "No, no, everything's in hand. The pleasure of your
company is more than enough..."
>
>I always wonder if this is in the equation. If she didn't ask if she
>could bring something, and chef's wife asked her to bring stuff,
>that's beyond rude. If friend asked if she could bring something,
>that's another thing. But, the expensive grocery list is way out of
>line!

The most I've ever asked anyone to bring to a dinner party of mine was
a salad or dessert and that was a) from family, b) my work commitment
blew up after the invitation was issued, and c) I've hosted the family
100 times more often than the rest of 'em put together.

But ask someone to bring *anything* to a dinner I'm hosting? Not
happening.*

*(cookins notwithstanding)

Terry "Squeaks" Pulliam Burd
--
"If the soup had been as hot as the claret, if the claret had been as
old as the bird, and if the bird's breasts had been as full as the
waitress's, it would have been a very good dinner."

-- Duncan Hines

To reply, replace "meatloaf" with "cox"

On Jun 1, 6:50 pm, Terry Pulliam Burd > wrote:
[Snip-O'-Matic employed]
> The most I've ever asked anyone to bring to a dinner party
> of mine was a salad or dessert
[snip]
> But ask someone to bring *anything* to a dinner I'm hosting?
> Not happening.

Ditto this. I'll happily ask my all three of my SILs to make one of
their best dishes *iff* they volunteer it; otherwise, when I'm
throwing a party, the invitees are guests. It's not brain surgery. My
party, my dime.

The Ranger

On Sat, 31 May 2008 01:57:16 GMT, "Michael \"Dog3\""
> wrote:

>Now that is a different kind of invite... A very pricey invite. I would
>probably do it if the party was for a charitable cause and people were
>making donations to attend the party I'd consider it depending upon the
>cause but just to have a party and expect that type of outlay from a guest
>is rather tacky IMO. Actually it's really tacky.

Heh, no kidding.... it tells you what kind of person she is and what
kind of people she wants around her. You know the old saying: With
friends like that, you don't need enemies.

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I agree with Michael....VERY TACKY! I would have gone along if it were
a charity thing....
Best wishes,
Ellie

ellie1999 wrote:

>
> I agree with Michael....VERY TACKY! I would have gone along if it were
> a charity thing....
> Best wishes,

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