ravenlynne wrote:

> See, the thing is, I'm not offended by a simple "no" when I give an
> invite. There could be myriad reasons why the invite is declined. I
> don't necessarily take it personally. But when you call, fishing for an
> invite, then act as if you need to weigh all of your options and see if
> something more appealing comes your way, I feel like saying "**** you,
> spend your evening elsewhere, then" but maybe without the profanity.

Next time you find yourself in that situation, tell them that you and your
husband will be ****ing most of the evening, including a "christening" of
the dinner table.

Bob

In article >,
ravenlynne > wrote:

> On 12/30/2010 2:35 AM, sf wrote:
> > On Wed, 29 Dec 2010 16:32:01 -0800 (PST), itsjoannotjoann
> > > wrote:
> >
> >> These people must have been raised in the projects.
> >
> > I sincerely doubt it. They sound like over privileged spoiled brats
> > (all grown up) to me.
> >
> >
>
> They are in a way. I'll explain.
>
> We're all in the SCA (Society for Creative anachronism.) We're
> historical re-enactors that re-create medieval life. In the society, he
> is important...he's a knight (a process that usually takes roughly 20
> years...10 to squire, 10 to knight) and a duke, meaning he's been king
> twice. She's a squire. She has no title, such as duchess as they were
> just married and he had titles before. My husband is an armsman of his,
> hoping to be a squire of his too. This will most likely happen soon,
> he's good and they love him. It's his dream, so I'm supportive. I could
> give a crap less, I have other things in my life, but it's important to
> his "career" in this that I be...cooperative.
>
> My issues come into play when they take it to real life....He's a
> stockbroker, she handles patents at home. That is what they are. They
> are no better or worse than we are, just people. So don't come into my
> home and act like the king and queen. You are not. Don't expect me to
> cater to every whim when I invite you over, because I'm not playing.
>
> Yes, it's an odd life we live. I love my hubby so I do what I can, but
> I put my foot down yesterday to him and he completely agrees. So we're
> all good. I'll cook friday and we'll have a good time playing board
> games or something and that'll be i.

You're a good woman, Ravenlynne. You didn't have to explain anything
but you did. Thanks for that - it's interesting. Happy New Year.

--
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Holy Order of the Sacred Sisters of St. Pectina of Jella
"Always in a jam, never in a stew; sometimes in a pickle."
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http://web.me.com/barbschaller

On 12/30/2010 12:00 PM, Bob Terwilliger wrote:
> ravenlynne wrote:
>
>> See, the thing is, I'm not offended by a simple "no" when I give an
>> invite. There could be myriad reasons why the invite is declined. I
>> don't necessarily take it personally. But when you call, fishing for
>> an invite, then act as if you need to weigh all of your options and
>> see if something more appealing comes your way, I feel like saying
>> "**** you, spend your evening elsewhere, then" but maybe without the
>> profanity.
>
> Next time you find yourself in that situation, tell them that you and
> your husband will be ****ing most of the evening, including a
> "christening" of the dinner table.
>
> Bob

LMAO I love you...

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On 12/30/2010 12:11 PM, Melba's Jammin' wrote:
> In >,
> > wrote:
>
>> On 12/30/2010 2:35 AM, sf wrote:
>>> On Wed, 29 Dec 2010 16:32:01 -0800 (PST), itsjoannotjoann
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>> These people must have been raised in the projects.
>>>
>>> I sincerely doubt it. They sound like over privileged spoiled brats
>>> (all grown up) to me.
>>>
>>>
>>
>> They are in a way. I'll explain.
>>
>> We're all in the SCA (Society for Creative anachronism.) We're
>> historical re-enactors that re-create medieval life. In the society, he
>> is important...he's a knight (a process that usually takes roughly 20
>> years...10 to squire, 10 to knight) and a duke, meaning he's been king
>> twice. She's a squire. She has no title, such as duchess as they were
>> just married and he had titles before. My husband is an armsman of his,
>> hoping to be a squire of his too. This will most likely happen soon,
>> he's good and they love him. It's his dream, so I'm supportive. I could
>> give a crap less, I have other things in my life, but it's important to
>> his "career" in this that I be...cooperative.
>>
>> My issues come into play when they take it to real life....He's a
>> stockbroker, she handles patents at home. That is what they are. They
>> are no better or worse than we are, just people. So don't come into my
>> home and act like the king and queen. You are not. Don't expect me to
>> cater to every whim when I invite you over, because I'm not playing.
>>
>> Yes, it's an odd life we live. I love my hubby so I do what I can, but
>> I put my foot down yesterday to him and he completely agrees. So we're
>> all good. I'll cook friday and we'll have a good time playing board
>> games or something and that'll be i.
>
> You're a good woman, Ravenlynne. You didn't have to explain anything
> but you did. Thanks for that - it's interesting. Happy New Year.
>

SCA is an interesting little subgroup of society.

Happy New Year to you too, love.

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On Dec 29, 6:23*pm, ravenlynne > wrote:
> On 12/29/2010 7:14 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>
> > I don't see that happening. I won't be inviting them again.
>
> Haha..that sounds just like these people.
>
> Update:
>
> I called. *They accepted. *I had previously (since my posting) changed
> my mind from beef to ham. *Informed them of the menu (never told them
> about the beef in the first place). *They noted that they don't like ham
> but would like to bring something. *I noted that I'm still making ham,
> but "we would love it if you brought something that you like to share
> with us." *They're bringing pigs in blankets.
>
> O_o
>
> So there it is.

They don't like ham, but are bringing garbage like "pigs in
blankets"? LOL!!!

There it is, indeed <g>

On 12/30/2010 9:35 AM, Goomba wrote:
> Nancy2 wrote:
>
>>
>> Mix up the table settings - it's a modern thing to do, and Martha does
>> it all the time. If you keep the different patterns fairly equal in
>> number, it should be fine.
>>
>> N.
>
> Yeah, but even if you're mixing it up you still need to know how many
> to lay out. Unless you're serving buffet style and can just stack
> plates and slip a few more into the pile...

You are right about that. It is so rude of people not to let you know.
And another thing, one night we had a dinner party, and one couple did
not arrive until 9:00. They were delayed by a phone call. Well, they
both had cell phones, and neither bothered to call me while they were on
their way over. In March, we are going to a Mardi Gras party at their
house, and I would never show up that late.

Becca

On 12/30/2010 12:55 PM, projectile vomit chick wrote:
> On Dec 29, 6:23 pm, > wrote:
>> On 12/29/2010 7:14 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>>
>>> I don't see that happening. I won't be inviting them again.
>>
>> Haha..that sounds just like these people.
>>
>> Update:
>>
>> I called. They accepted. I had previously (since my posting) changed
>> my mind from beef to ham. Informed them of the menu (never told them
>> about the beef in the first place). They noted that they don't like ham
>> but would like to bring something. I noted that I'm still making ham,
>> but "we would love it if you brought something that you like to share
>> with us." They're bringing pigs in blankets.
>>
>> O_o
>>
>> So there it is.
>
> They don't like ham, but are bringing garbage like "pigs in
> blankets"? LOL!!!
>
> There it is, indeed<g>

Well, little smokies don't just have ham, there's all the other odd
parts (noses, buttholes) too!

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On Dec 30, 11:00*am, "Bob Terwilliger" >
wrote:
> ravenlynne wrote:
> > See, the thing is, I'm not offended by a simple "no" when I give an
> > invite. *There could be myriad reasons why the invite is declined. *I
> > don't necessarily take it personally. *But when you call, fishing for an
> > invite, then act as if you need to weigh all of your options and see if
> > something more appealing comes your way, I feel like saying "**** you,
> > spend your evening elsewhere, then" but maybe without the profanity.
>
> Next time you find yourself in that situation, tell them that you and your
> husband will be ****ing most of the evening, including a "christening" of
> the dinner table.

Now there you go, that's the best response in this thread.

On 12/30/2010 1:03 PM, projectile vomit chick wrote:
> On Dec 30, 11:00 am, "Bob >
> wrote:
>> ravenlynne wrote:
>>> See, the thing is, I'm not offended by a simple "no" when I give an
>>> invite. There could be myriad reasons why the invite is declined. I
>>> don't necessarily take it personally. But when you call, fishing for an
>>> invite, then act as if you need to weigh all of your options and see if
>>> something more appealing comes your way, I feel like saying "**** you,
>>> spend your evening elsewhere, then" but maybe without the profanity.
>>
>> Next time you find yourself in that situation, tell them that you and your
>> husband will be ****ing most of the evening, including a "christening" of
>> the dinner table.
>
> Now there you go, that's the best response in this thread.

I'm giggling picturing myself actually saying that.

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dsi1 wrote:
> Dave Smith wrote:
>
>> I tried that with my wacko sister in law who likes to have big parties
>> at her cottage ....
>
> And who doesn't have a wacko sister-in-law?

A more crazy folks in my family have gradually aged out and died off. I
figure now I am the wacko relative to most of my family.

On the original topic - Some people do come-one-come-all type parties.
Some who do that can't imagine carefully planned parties. Some who
don't do that can't imagine come-one-come-all type parties. Put the
folks who can't imagine each other together and you get folks calling
each other rude or worst when it's really they are aliens to each other.

Expecting a party to be come-one-come-all and being clueless of the
existence of carefully planned parties isn't rude it's clueless.
Fishing among parties for the best one is flakey. Does flakey equal
rude? Depends on how thin your skin is.

ravenlynne wrote:
>
> They are in a way. I'll explain.
>
> We're all in the SCA (Society for Creative anachronism.) We're
> historical re-enactors that re-create medieval life. In the society, he
> is important...he's a knight (a process that usually takes roughly 20
> years...10 to squire, 10 to knight) and a duke, meaning he's been king
> twice. She's a squire. She has no title, such as duchess as they were
> just married and he had titles before. My husband is an armsman of his,
> hoping to be a squire of his too. This will most likely happen soon,
> he's good and they love him. It's his dream, so I'm supportive. I could
> give a crap less, I have other things in my life, but it's important to
> his "career" in this that I be...cooperative.

It is period authentic to have completely the wrong amount of food.
Sometimes this anachronism stuff works out just fine. There's always
food for the Duke and his Lady. You want some cheese on your toast? I
can cut off the mold if you like. There are ales in the back yard.

On 30/12/2010 3:46 PM, Omelet wrote:

>>
>> I tried that with my wacko sister in law who likes to have big parties
>> at her cottage, but doesn't have room to put us up and does not want our
>> dog. We made excuses for several years and finally had to tell her that
>> we would love to come to parties at her house, but don't want to drive
>> four hours each way for a party and cannot afford to board the dog and
>> stay in a hotel in order to go to her party.
>
> What was her response?

She took it surprisingly well. She hasn't invited us to any more parties
at the cottage ....... or to her apartment. I don't know if she has had
any. But we did see her at her grandson's christening party in the city.

She keeps inviting us to stay at the cottage. I was planning on doing
that this winter. It is a chalet at the bottom of a ski hill. I gave up
down hill skiing while back because my knee was messed up. I had been
working out and getting it back into shape and was planning to get back
into down hill skiing this winter. I guess me recent heart surgery has
put the kibosh on that.

On 30/12/2010 4:10 PM, Omelet wrote:
> In g.com>,
> Dave > wrote:
>
>> On 30/12/2010 3:46 PM, Omelet wrote:
>>
>>>>
>>>> I tried that with my wacko sister in law who likes to have big parties
>>>> at her cottage, but doesn't have room to put us up and does not want our
>>>> dog. We made excuses for several years and finally had to tell her that
>>>> we would love to come to parties at her house, but don't want to drive
>>>> four hours each way for a party and cannot afford to board the dog and
>>>> stay in a hotel in order to go to her party.
>>>
>>> What was her response?
>>
>> She took it surprisingly well. She hasn't invited us to any more parties
>> at the cottage ....... or to her apartment. I don't know if she has had
>> any. But we did see her at her grandson's christening party in the city.
>
> Sounds good!
>
>>
>> She keeps inviting us to stay at the cottage. I was planning on doing
>> that this winter. It is a chalet at the bottom of a ski hill. I gave up
>> down hill skiing while back because my knee was messed up. I had been
>> working out and getting it back into shape and was planning to get back
>> into down hill skiing this winter. I guess me recent heart surgery has
>> put the kibosh on that.
>
> Ask your Dr. about it!


I could ask him about the heart issue, but I don't need a doctor's
opinion about my ribs and chest. They are still way too tender to risk a
fall. I still can't even cough or sneeze without serious pain.

On Thu, 30 Dec 2010 09:02:13 -0500, ravenlynne
> wrote:

> On 12/30/2010 2:35 AM, sf wrote:
> > On Wed, 29 Dec 2010 16:32:01 -0800 (PST), itsjoannotjoann
> > > wrote:
> >
> >> These people must have been raised in the projects.
> >
> > I sincerely doubt it. They sound like over privileged spoiled brats
> > (all grown up) to me.
> >
> >
>
> They are in a way. I'll explain.
>
> We're all in the SCA (Society for Creative anachronism.) We're
> historical re-enactors that re-create medieval life. In the society, he
> is important...he's a knight (a process that usually takes roughly 20
> years...10 to squire, 10 to knight) and a duke, meaning he's been king
> twice. She's a squire. She has no title, such as duchess as they were
> just married and he had titles before. My husband is an armsman of his,
> hoping to be a squire of his too. This will most likely happen soon,
> he's good and they love him. It's his dream, so I'm supportive. I could
> give a crap less, I have other things in my life, but it's important to
> his "career" in this that I be...cooperative.
>
> My issues come into play when they take it to real life....

Thanks for explaining, Lynne! That's a "different" type of
friendship.

<snip>

> I put my foot down yesterday to him and he completely agrees. So we're all good.

Glad it all worked out. Somebody needs to live in RL and apply
ordinary RL social conventions to RL social situations.

--

Never trust a dog to watch your food.

On 30/12/2010 4:28 PM, Omelet wrote:
> In .com>,
> Dave > wrote:
>
>> I could ask him about the heart issue, but I don't need a doctor's
>> opinion about my ribs and chest. They are still way too tender to risk a
>> fall. I still can't even cough or sneeze without serious pain.
>
> Dave, would you like to try some K-tape for that?
> I should have offered sooner...

Never heard of it. They gave me a "huggie" a small pillow that I am
supposed to hold tightly against my chest if I have to cough, and had
to that a lot post surgery. never the less.... I don't see myself skiing
this winter.

Dave Smith > wrote in news:dG6To.29324$aG5.5019
@unlimited.newshosting.com:

> I don't need a doctor's
> opinion about my ribs and chest. They are still way too tender to risk a
> fall. I still can't even cough or sneeze without serious pain.

Two major infarcts and I have yet to have any "surgery". The worst I've
had to put up with is catheterization, first time to check the arteries and
second time, fourteen years later, to install two stents in the remaining
arteries.

--

On the first day God created the sun - so the Devil countered
and created sunburn. On the second day God created sex. In
response the Devil created marriage. On the third day God created
an economist. This was a tough one for the Devil, but in the end
and after a lot of thought he created a second economist!

http://www.blabbinit.com/content/god-created-economist

On 30/12/2010 6:07 PM, Michel Boucher wrote:
> Dave > wrote in news:dG6To.29324$aG5.5019
> @unlimited.newshosting.com:
>
>> I don't need a doctor's
>> opinion about my ribs and chest. They are still way too tender to risk a
>> fall. I still can't even cough or sneeze without serious pain.
>
> Two major infarcts and I have yet to have any "surgery". The worst I've
> had to put up with is catheterization, first time to check the arteries and
> second time, fourteen years later, to install two stents in the remaining
> arteries.
>
The surgery was a rude surprise. I went in for the catheter...
angiography. They found a blocked artery and thought they could clean it
out and put in a stent. Things went bad. They perforated an artery and I
was rushed into emergency double bypass surgery. That was 8 weeks ago
tomorrow.

Dave Smith > wrote in news:7p8To.32707$Yo.7413
@unlimited.newshosting.com:

> The surgery was a rude surprise. I went in for the catheter...
> angiography. They found a blocked artery and thought they could clean it
> out and put in a stent. Things went bad. They perforated an artery and I
> was rushed into emergency double bypass surgery. That was 8 weeks ago
> tomorrow.

Yikes! I guess, under the circumstances, that double bypass was the way to
go.

--

On the first day God created the sun - so the Devil countered
and created sunburn. On the second day God created sex. In
response the Devil created marriage. On the third day God created
an economist. This was a tough one for the Devil, but in the end
and after a lot of thought he created a second economist!

http://www.blabbinit.com/content/god-created-economist

Omelet wrote:
> In article > ,
> Dave Smith > wrote:
>
>> I could ask him about the heart issue, but I don't need a doctor's
>> opinion about my ribs and chest. They are still way too tender to risk a
>> fall. I still can't even cough or sneeze without serious pain.
>
> Dave, would you like to try some K-tape for that?
> I should have offered sooner...

Not a good thing to do- inhibits chest excursion and deep breathing.

On 12/30/2010 3:54 PM, Omelet wrote:
> In >,
> > wrote:
>
>> > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> Yes, it's an odd life we live. I love my hubby so I do what I can, but I
>>> put my foot down yesterday to him and he completely agrees. So we're all
>>> good. I'll cook friday and we'll have a good time playing board games or
>>> something and that'll be i.
>>
>> Good! He needs to know his 'interests' do not allow others to look down on
>> you! It seems to me that those people take their elevated status into rl
>> and it is not acceptable!
>> --
>
> But typical of SCA.<g>
>
> I'm surprised that the Canton did not get together for a New Years
> party, complete with costumes.

No, they had a huge christmas party.

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On 12/30/2010 3:01 AM, Wayne Boatwright wrote:

> When we invite folks for dinner or a party, if they're not able to
> confirm when invited, I usually give them a date that I need to know
> by. If I haven't heard by then, I call and asked to confirm or
> decline, since I need to shop for the occasion. I really don't care
> what they think, since they are the ones being inconsiderate.
>
> Years ago I was burned once when I invited five other couples for a
> New Year's Eve formal dinner. All five couples confirmed they would
> attend. New Years's Eve came and went and not a damned soul turned
> up. As it happens, they all went to another party given by mutual
> friends of theirs, but someone I didn't know. Once burned, twice
> shy. I never let that happen again, and needless to say, they all
> became merely speaking acquaintances.

Wow, that's a hard thing to have happen.

"ravenlynne" > wrote in message
...
> On 12/29/2010 9:24 PM, Julie Bove wrote:
>
>> I could be wrong but I would take what they said to mean that they might
>> have been thinking of throwing a party themselves. I often ask about a
>> particular day when I am planning my daughter's birthday party. Her
>> birthday is in July and so many people are on vacation then, that having
>> a
>> party is difficult. This last year we just did it in May and called it
>> an
>> unbirthday party. I didn't have to ask around and all but maybe three
>> kids
>> showed up.
>
> No they rarely throw parties. They have get togethers at their house
> sometimes, but everyone who attends has to bring food as they don't supply
> any. They feel that opening their home is enough.
>
> Don't look at me like that...I don 't know!

LOL. You're getting looked at like that because you already know these
people are appalling. I guess we've all had those types in our lives at
some time or another and then had to figure out how we get rid of them.

"ravenlynne" > wrote in message

> SCA is an interesting little subgroup of society.

They sure are! I'm interested in spinning and weaving and wanted to know
about growing flax for use in said hobbies. SCA sites have some great
archaic info on them such as how to grow and prepare flax. Long live all
SCA activities.

"FarmI" <ask@itshall be given> wrote in message
u...
> "ravenlynne" > wrote in message
> ...
>> On 12/29/2010 9:24 PM, Julie Bove wrote:
>>
>>> I could be wrong but I would take what they said to mean that they might
>>> have been thinking of throwing a party themselves. I often ask about a
>>> particular day when I am planning my daughter's birthday party. Her
>>> birthday is in July and so many people are on vacation then, that having
>>> a
>>> party is difficult. This last year we just did it in May and called it
>>> an
>>> unbirthday party. I didn't have to ask around and all but maybe three
>>> kids
>>> showed up.
>>
>> No they rarely throw parties. They have get togethers at their house
>> sometimes, but everyone who attends has to bring food as they don't
>> supply any. They feel that opening their home is enough.
>>
>> Don't look at me like that...I don 't know!
>
> LOL. You're getting looked at like that because you already know these
> people are appalling. I guess we've all had those types in our lives at
> some time or another and then had to figure out how we get rid of them.

I guess I'm lucky! I never had anyone in my life like that.

I did have one friend (and at one time he was a roommate) who was an
admitted mooch. He never seemed to have any money when we went to the
movies, or out dancing or out to eat. So we did have to pay his way if we
wanted him to come along. Except for when we were dining at the restaurant
where he worked. We got a discount there and his food was usually free.

He did throw the most lavish parties, which is probably why he never had any
money. He threw quite a lot of parties. He had a huge house, excellent
stereo system, tons of music. Always had plenty of food and liquor.

On 30/12/2010 10:19 PM, Omelet wrote:
>
>> The surgery was a rude surprise. I went in for the catheter...
>> angiography. They found a blocked artery and thought they could clean it
>> out and put in a stent. Things went bad. They perforated an artery and I
>> was rushed into emergency double bypass surgery. That was 8 weeks ago
>> tomorrow.
>
> Makes me ever more hesitant to ever have a heart cath unless it was
> necessary to save my life!


I guess the theory is that they can get in there and see if there is a
problem, and if there is they can determine whether they can do an
anglioplasty and blow the artery out and/or stick in a stent to
eliminate small problems before they become bigger problems..... bearing
in mind that people don't usually for angiography unless they already
have a problem.


Apparently the risk of things going bad is something 1 in 1,0000. i
guess I was the one. My wife was telling a friend about my experience
and it seems it is not such a rare occurence. Her mother went in for
angiogram / angioplasty and they perforated her artery too. The
difference was that they didn't realize it for a few hours. She almost
died before they realized the problem.

On Dec 30, 12:01*pm, ravenlynne > wrote:
> On 12/30/2010 12:55 PM, projectile vomit chick wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
> > On Dec 29, 6:23 pm, > *wrote:
> >> On 12/29/2010 7:14 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>
> >>> I don't see that happening. I won't be inviting them again.
>
> >> Haha..that sounds just like these people.
>
> >> Update:
>
> >> I called. *They accepted. *I had previously (since my posting) changed
> >> my mind from beef to ham. *Informed them of the menu (never told them
> >> about the beef in the first place). *They noted that they don't like ham
> >> but would like to bring something. *I noted that I'm still making ham,
> >> but "we would love it if you brought something that you like to share
> >> with us." *They're bringing pigs in blankets.
>
> >> O_o
>
> >> So there it is.
>
> > They don't like ham, but are bringing garbage like "pigs in
> > blankets"? *LOL!!!
>
> > There it is, indeed<g>
>
> Well, little smokies don't just have ham, there's all the other odd
> parts (noses, buttholes) too!

Perhaps they will bring some of that grape-jelly sauce as well.

On Thu, 30 Dec 2010 22:41:37 -0500, Dave Smith
> wrote:

> Apparently the risk of things going bad is something 1 in 1,0000. i
> guess I was the one. My wife was telling a friend about my experience
> and it seems it is not such a rare occurence. Her mother went in for
> angiogram / angioplasty and they perforated her artery too. The
> difference was that they didn't realize it for a few hours. She almost
> died before they realized the problem.

They informed my husband of the risk when he went in for his
angioplasty and told him if a coronary artery was too blocked, they
wouldn't insert a stent and he'd need surgery.

--

Never trust a dog to watch your food.

ravenlynne > wrote:

>So some friends of ours called last weekend to inquire what we were
>doing for new years...what was said is "we're trying to see what
>everyone is doing so we can decide what we want to do since we're not
>going out of town this year."
>
>I was uncomfortable...it felt like what she was saying was "tell us what
>you're doing and if that sounds like fun, we'll invite ourselves." This
>isn't something that I do, so I was off put. Anyway, I stated our
>plans, followed by "you're more than welcome to join us" which, while I
>did mean it, felt a bit necessary, as in I'm not going to tell you my
>plans without inviting you. She said she'd discuss it with her husband
>and let us know. This was Sunday.
>
>It's wednesday evening. I need to plan what I'm going to cook and shop
>and I need to do that friday morning. Do I enquire as to whether
>they're coming? If so, when do I do this? How long do I wait? Or do I
>just plan for us and if they come, say "sorry, you didn't let me know so
>I didn't plan for you? I don't know what to do, as I don't DO this to
>people and I'm quite irked about it. I'm not planning on a ham or
>something that feeds plenty, but appetizers and beef filet. When I'm
>invited somewhere, I let them know pretty much asap. They do have a
>history of both waiting until the day of to let us know or, as happened
>last time, agreeing to come with a group, but them backing out at the
>last minute because the rest of the group had to cancel and "it would
>just be us, so we'll cancel too." (grrr!!!!)
>
>Yes, I used the term "friends"....they're important to my husband and I
>don't want to burn bridges.

In certain circles it's routine to try to hit up as many
New Years Eve parties as possible.

I used to always hold a sort of open house on New Years Eve... I'd
tell many people I know that they can come by anytime within a certain
window (say 6 p.m. to 2 a.m.), that they don't need to RSVP, that they
are free to stop by for as long or as brief a visit as they wish since
they might be on their way to the next party. Unlike other nights
of the year, a very brief visit is not insulting, and a no-show
is not particularly insulting.

I know a few people who continue to do something like this. New
Years Eve seems to divide the public into those who are going out
(quite possibly to multiple events), vs. those who are staying in and
holding something resembling a party, or at least staying in
and letting people drop by.

What I'm reading into the above is that you signalled (perhaps
inadvertently) to your friend that you may be doing something along
the lines of the latter.

Steve

On 12/30/2010 10:10 PM, FarmI wrote:
> > wrote in message
>
>> SCA is an interesting little subgroup of society.
>
> They sure are! I'm interested in spinning and weaving and wanted to know
> about growing flax for use in said hobbies. SCA sites have some great
> archaic info on them such as how to grow and prepare flax. Long live all
> SCA activities.
>
>

I, of course, am interesting in the cooking parts of SCA life. I want
to build a bread oven that can travel to events...I want a fully
operational camp kitchen.

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On 12/30/2010 10:20 PM, Omelet wrote:
> In >,
> > wrote:
>
>> On 12/30/2010 3:54 PM, Omelet wrote:
>>> In >,
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>> > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>>> Yes, it's an odd life we live. I love my hubby so I do what I can, but I
>>>>> put my foot down yesterday to him and he completely agrees. So we're all
>>>>> good. I'll cook friday and we'll have a good time playing board games or
>>>>> something and that'll be i.
>>>>
>>>> Good! He needs to know his 'interests' do not allow others to look down
>>>> on
>>>> you! It seems to me that those people take their elevated status into rl
>>>> and it is not acceptable!
>>>> --
>>>
>>> But typical of SCA.<g>
>>>
>>> I'm surprised that the Canton did not get together for a New Years
>>> party, complete with costumes.
>>
>> No, they had a huge christmas party.
>
> And is 12th night in the offing? :-)


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On 12/30/2010 10:20 PM, Omelet wrote:
> In >,
> > wrote:
>
>> On 12/30/2010 3:54 PM, Omelet wrote:
>>> I'm surprised that the Canton did not get together for a New Years
>>> party, complete with costumes.
>>
>> No, they had a huge christmas party.
>
> And is 12th night in the offing? :-)

No, that's in january. It's a crappy garbed pot luck get together in a
church hall. We'll be skipping it.
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On 12/30/2010 10:55 PM, projectile vomit chick wrote:
> On Dec 30, 12:01 pm, > wrote:
>> On 12/30/2010 12:55 PM, projectile vomit chick wrote:
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>> On Dec 29, 6:23 pm, > wrote:
>>>> On 12/29/2010 7:14 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>>
>>>>> I don't see that happening. I won't be inviting them again.
>>
>>>> Haha..that sounds just like these people.
>>
>>>> Update:
>>
>>>> I called. They accepted. I had previously (since my posting) changed
>>>> my mind from beef to ham. Informed them of the menu (never told them
>>>> about the beef in the first place). They noted that they don't like ham
>>>> but would like to bring something. I noted that I'm still making ham,
>>>> but "we would love it if you brought something that you like to share
>>>> with us." They're bringing pigs in blankets.
>>
>>>> O_o
>>
>>>> So there it is.
>>
>>> They don't like ham, but are bringing garbage like "pigs in
>>> blankets"? LOL!!!
>>
>>> There it is, indeed<g>
>>
>> Well, little smokies don't just have ham, there's all the other odd
>> parts (noses, buttholes) too!
>
> Perhaps they will bring some of that grape-jelly sauce as well.

Funny you should mention it. Guess what message I got on facebook last
night?

"Do you want me to bring those meatballs that scott likes? More salmon
for us!"

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In article >,
ravenlynne > wrote:

> On 12/30/2010 10:20 PM, Omelet wrote:
> > In >,
> > > wrote:
> >
> >> On 12/30/2010 3:54 PM, Omelet wrote:
> >>> I'm surprised that the Canton did not get together for a New Years
> >>> party, complete with costumes.
> >>
> >> No, they had a huge christmas party.
> >
> > And is 12th night in the offing? :-)
>
> No, that's in january. It's a crappy garbed pot luck get together in a
> church hall. We'll be skipping it.

Hey! You're describing my family's Christmas get-together next Friday
(January 7)! Potluck. Church hall. Pirohy abounding. People will
wear casual threads.


--
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Holy Order of the Sacred Sisters of St. Pectina of Jella
"Always in a jam, never in a stew; sometimes in a pickle."
Pepparkakor particulars posted 11-29-2010;
http://web.me.com/barbschaller

On Fri, 31 Dec 2010 09:24:16 -0500, ravenlynne
> wrote:

> On 12/30/2010 10:10 PM, FarmI wrote:
> > > wrote in message
> >
> >> SCA is an interesting little subgroup of society.
> >
> > They sure are! I'm interested in spinning and weaving and wanted to know
> > about growing flax for use in said hobbies. SCA sites have some great
> > archaic info on them such as how to grow and prepare flax. Long live all
> > SCA activities.
> >
> >
>
> I, of course, am interesting in the cooking parts of SCA life. I want
> to build a bread oven that can travel to events...I want a fully
> operational camp kitchen.

Google for "Pizza Hacker and Franken Weber" (you'll get lots of hits).
It's portable and I don't see why it couldn't cook bread.
http://slice.seriouseats.com/archive...ml?ref=related
http://www.grilledpizza.net/rip-off-...franken-weber/

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On 12/31/2010 12:40 PM, sf wrote:
> On Fri, 31 Dec 2010 09:24:16 -0500, ravenlynne
> > wrote:
>
>> On 12/30/2010 10:10 PM, FarmI wrote:
>>> > wrote in message
>>>
>>>> SCA is an interesting little subgroup of society.
>>>
>>> They sure are! I'm interested in spinning and weaving and wanted to know
>>> about growing flax for use in said hobbies. SCA sites have some great
>>> archaic info on them such as how to grow and prepare flax. Long live all
>>> SCA activities.
>>>
>>>
>>
>> I, of course, am interesting in the cooking parts of SCA life. I want
>> to build a bread oven that can travel to events...I want a fully
>> operational camp kitchen.
>
> Google for "Pizza Hacker and Franken Weber" (you'll get lots of hits).
> It's portable and I don't see why it couldn't cook bread.
> http://slice.seriouseats.com/archive...ml?ref=related
> http://www.grilledpizza.net/rip-off-...franken-weber/
>

Yes, but I'm working on a period mud and brick one.

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On 31/12/2010 10:27 AM, Melba's Jammin' wrote:
..
>
> Hey! You're describing my family's Christmas get-together next Friday
> (January 7)! Potluck. Church hall. Pirohy abounding. People will
> wear casual threads.
>


I committed a horrible gaffe a few years ago. My obnoxiously picky eater
and socially inept nephew is notorious for wearing sweat pants and dirty
T shirts. When I invited him here for Christmas a few years ago I asked
him to dress up a bit. I didn't expect a suit or even a tie, but
something nicer than sweat pants and a once white T shirt that is now
closer to beige. He got upset and said maybe he wouldn't come, and I
told hm that if he came in sweat pants I wouldn't let him in. He wore
blue jeans. Casual and but acceptable.

On Fri, 31 Dec 2010 12:43:06 -0500, ravenlynne
> wrote:

> On 12/31/2010 12:40 PM, sf wrote:
> >>
> >> I, of course, am interesting in the cooking parts of SCA life. I want
> >> to build a bread oven that can travel to events...I want a fully
> >> operational camp kitchen.
> >
> > Google for "Pizza Hacker and Franken Weber" (you'll get lots of hits).
> > It's portable and I don't see why it couldn't cook bread.
> > http://slice.seriouseats.com/archive...ml?ref=related
> > http://www.grilledpizza.net/rip-off-...franken-weber/
> >
>
> Yes, but I'm working on a period mud and brick one.

I don't see how that could be portable. It would be too fragile.

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On 12/31/2010 4:26 PM, sf wrote:
> On Fri, 31 Dec 2010 12:43:06 -0500, ravenlynne
> > wrote:
>
>> On 12/31/2010 12:40 PM, sf wrote:
>>>>
>>>> I, of course, am interesting in the cooking parts of SCA life. I want
>>>> to build a bread oven that can travel to events...I want a fully
>>>> operational camp kitchen.
>>>
>>> Google for "Pizza Hacker and Franken Weber" (you'll get lots of hits).
>>> It's portable and I don't see why it couldn't cook bread.
>>> http://slice.seriouseats.com/archive...ml?ref=related
>>> http://www.grilledpizza.net/rip-off-...franken-weber/
>>>
>>
>> Yes, but I'm working on a period mud and brick one.
>
> I don't see how that could be portable. It would be too fragile.
>

Yes, I'm still playing with the idea. But I'm not going to buy
something and try to play it off.

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On Sat, 01 Jan 2011 12:31:54 -0600, Omelet >
wrote:

> She might consider Adobe with some metal reinforcement inside that'd be
> hidden by the clay?

Which is where a franken-weber type build would come in handy, but
she's not considering that option.

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Never trust a dog to watch your food.

On Sat, 01 Jan 2011 21:25:57 -0600, Omelet >
wrote:

> In article >,
> sf > wrote:
>
> > On Sat, 01 Jan 2011 12:31:54 -0600, Omelet >
> > wrote:
> >
> > > She might consider Adobe with some metal reinforcement inside that'd be
> > > hidden by the clay?
> >
> > Which is where a franken-weber type build would come in handy, but
> > she's not considering that option.
>
> It's a matter of appearance I think? :-)
> SCA people are picky about that.
>
> I've not looked at Frankenwebers!

Follow the link I posted previously to see it.

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