Home |
Search |
Today's Posts |
|
General Cooking (rec.food.cooking) For general food and cooking discussion. Foods of all kinds, food procurement, cooking methods and techniques, eating, etc. |
Reply |
|
LinkBack | Thread Tools | Display Modes |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
A different post mentioned Dorothy and Barb's Excellent Adventure on
Sunday as we drove to Kansas City, MO. We attended the funeral of The Widow Dorothy's good friend. The service was interesting in a weird sort of way. E-mail me if you'd like to know why I think that. Note that my addres here is munged -- figure it out. After the burial service at the cemetery, we went (by limousine, thank you) to a lovely restaurant at The Plaza -- restaurant was called Plaza 3, I believe. A wonderful salad, topped with a creamy dressing and lots of shredded mozzarella (I think) preceded steak or chicken sandwiches; we were served cheesecake for dessert. First time I've ever eaten funeral food in a restaurant although I understand that to be the custom among some. The End. -- -Barb 12-28-03: Tourtiere picture added to my site: <www.jamlady.eboard.com> Also a picture of my Baba Authorized struhadlo for making halushky "If you're ever in a jam, here I am." |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
On Tue, 06 Jan 2004 19:30:42 -0600, Melba's Jammin'
> wrote: >A different post mentioned Dorothy and Barb's Excellent Adventure on >Sunday as we drove to Kansas City, MO. We attended the funeral of The >Widow Dorothy's good friend. The service was interesting in a weird >sort of way. E-mail me if you'd like to know why I think that. Note >that my addres here is munged -- figure it out. > >After the burial service at the cemetery, we went (by limousine, thank >you) to a lovely restaurant at The Plaza -- restaurant was called Plaza >3, I believe. A wonderful salad, topped with a creamy dressing and lots >of shredded mozzarella (I think) preceded steak or chicken sandwiches; >we were served cheesecake for dessert. First time I've ever eaten >funeral food in a restaurant although I understand that to be the custom >among some. > >The End. I attended my funeral of a particular faith last summer. We went out to eat, too, which i thought was odd. We were told to order something meager, that a large meal wouldn't be customary. Things that make you go hmmmm.... |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
jammer wrote:
> > I attended my funeral...last summer I'm trying very hard NOT to post: "Sorry, I didn't even know you were ill." I'll let you know if I stifle the urge to post it. gloria p |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
jammer wrote:
> I attended my funeral of a particular faith last summer. We went out > to eat, too, which i thought was odd. We were told to order something > meager, that a large meal wouldn't be customary. > > Things that make you go hmmmm.... Wouldn't be customary to whom?? You ever go to an Italian familes post-cemetary soiree? While it might not be sit down, the offerings are all there for a good get together. Methinks that next of kin were just cheap. Goomba |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
On Tue, 06 Jan 2004 23:08:01 -0500, Goomba38 >
wrote: >jammer wrote: > >> I attended my funeral of a particular faith last summer. We went out >> to eat, too, which i thought was odd. We were told to order something >> meager, that a large meal wouldn't be customary. >> >> Things that make you go hmmmm.... > >Wouldn't be customary to whom?? You ever go to an Italian familes >post-cemetary soiree? While it might not be sit down, the offerings are all >there for a good get together. Methinks that next of kin were just cheap. >Goomba > Maybe they couldn't afford it. Maybe it really is the custom of those people or the evolution of a custom. Sure, in the old days when there was a lot of extended family around, quite a few people were able to take care of the immediate family, including catering social events such as a reception. But, in a mobile society like the US, families disperse and customs are modified. In the absence of outisde family/friends who are willing to plan as well as shoulder the cost of any meals or dinners, I can understand how such a custom would be modified or fade away. Sue(tm) Lead me not into temptation... I can find it myself! |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
>A different post mentioned Dorothy and Barb's Excellent Adventure on
>>Sunday as we drove to Kansas City, MO. We attended the funeral of The >>Widow Dorothy's good friend. The service was interesting in a weird >>sort of way. E-mail me if you'd like to know why I think that. Note >>that my addres here is munged -- figure it out. >> >>After the burial service at the cemetery, we went (by limousine, thank >>you) to a lovely restaurant at The Plaza -- restaurant was called Plaza >>3, I believe. A wonderful salad, topped with a creamy dressing and lots >>of shredded mozzarella (I think) preceded steak or chicken sandwiches; >>we were served cheesecake for dessert. First time I've ever eaten >>funeral food in a restaurant although I understand that to be the custom >>among some. >> >>The End. In the Jewish religion, there is usually a get-together (with food) of the family and friends after the interment. It is usually at the home of the closest family member or closest friend of the deceased and friends and relatives prepare the meal while the rest are at the cemetery. After the burial, all the mourners go to the home where the prepared meal is waiting and go back there for the ritual mourning period of one week, Shiva. The traditional spread is smoked and cured fish, cheeses, salads, breads, bagels, cakes, cookies, fruits, everything but meats or meat products, as kosher laws dictate. However, just in the last few years, I have heard several times that the mourners were invited to a restaurant after the burial. It is usually lunch or a light afternoon meal, consisting of soup or appetizer, a sandwich of the guest's choice, dessert and coffee, as well as wine or other drinks, again, the guest's choice. I guess that it has something to do with the age of the departed and the dispersion of the family. People live to such an old age, that none of their contemporaries are left or able to do the what is expected of them, wile the others don't live in the city. I suppose that this will happen more and more frequently and soon it will be the usual, instead of the rarity. So far, I have not been to one of these, but I have no special feelings about it. It seems to be a necessity in some cases. At least in New York City, all my kids will have to do is call up Zabar's and order whatever is needed. It's just a question whether I will still have my apartment when the time comes, because neither one of my kids lives in the city. None of my friends still live in New York, having moved to warmer places or having died. Of course, they may be in warmer (or hot) places, too. Margaret |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
>A different post mentioned Dorothy and Barb's Excellent Adventure on
>Sunday as we drove to Kansas City, MO. We attended the funeral of The >Widow Dorothy's good friend. The service was interesting in a weird >sort of way. E-mail me if you'd like to know why I think that. Note >that my addres here is munged -- figure it out. > >After the burial service at the cemetery, we went (by limousine, thank >you) to a lovely restaurant at The Plaza -- restaurant was called Plaza >3, I believe. A wonderful salad, topped with a creamy dressing and lots >of shredded mozzarella (I think) preceded steak or chicken sandwiches; >we were served cheesecake for dessert. First time I've ever eaten >funeral food in a restaurant although I understand that to be the custom >among some. > >The End. The customary thing with the family funerals I attended as a child in Detroit was to go out to a restaurant for a lunch or dinner. Of course I didn't know who footed the bill. Your meal sounds better than what we got from what I can recall. Glad you survived the trip, Melba! The middle of this country can get gusty snow sometimes. >-Barb >12-28-03: Tourtiere picture added to my site: <www.jamlady.eboard.com> >Also a picture of my Baba Authorized struhadlo for making halushky >"If you're ever in a jam, here I am." > > > rharps.com |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
On Wed, 07 Jan 2004 18:47:08 GMT, Margaret Suran
> wrote: >my kids lives in the city. None of my friends still live in New York, You're never going to forgive me for going to Agata & Valentina without you? Sue(tm) Lead me not into temptation... I can find it myself! |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
Curly Sue wrote: > On Wed, 07 Jan 2004 18:47:08 GMT, Margaret Suran > > wrote: > > >>my kids lives in the city. None of my friends still live in New York, > > > You're never going to forgive me for going to Agata & Valentina > without you! You better believe it! How could you pass by the house and not wave to me? That I was not home is not the point. ) I do miss you, no kidding. We have to get together again, one of these days. Tonight for dinner, left over roasted chicken with baked potatoes, gravy and green peas. A green salad and brie for dessert. And wine, of course. Margaret |
|
|||
|
|||
Funeral Food -- Again!
Dog3 wrote:
> > Margaret Suran > deliciously posted in > link.net: > > > > > > > In the Jewish religion, there is usually a get-together (with food) of > > the family and friends after the interment. It is usually at the home > > of the closest family member or closest friend of the deceased and > > friends and relatives prepare the meal while the rest are at the > > cemetery. > > > > After the burial, all the mourners go to the home where the prepared > > meal is waiting and go back there for the ritual mourning period of > > one week, Shiva. The traditional spread is smoked and cured fish, > > cheeses, salads, breads, bagels, cakes, cookies, fruits, everything > > but meats or meat products, as kosher laws dictate. > > Hmmm... The past 2 Shivas I attended had meat. Trays were delivered from > the same deli for both Shivas. I have dubbed this deli the funeral deli. > I've eaten there several times as well. Neither of the deceased was > Orthodox. Does this make a difference with the serving of meat at a Shiva? > As far as I know, the meat was kosher. > > > > > However, just in the last few years, I have heard several times that > > the mourners were invited to a restaurant after the burial. It is > > usually lunch or a light afternoon meal, consisting of soup or > > appetizer, a sandwich of the guest's choice, dessert and coffee, as > > well as wine or other drinks, again, the guest's choice. > > Much less taxing on the survivors I'd think. > > Michael The last couple I attended were Reform, so those would not be typical. both had mixed deli platters. When my Dad dies, friends brought cassarols, cheeses, fruits and cakes to Mom's, but she kept kosher. Christian friends' families post-interrment meals have been at restaurants, but the meal was buffet: finger sandwiches, salads, chips, coffee&tea&soda and cakes for dessert. maxine in ri |
Reply |
Thread Tools | Search this Thread |
Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Forum | |||
Funeral Food - again | General Cooking | |||
Funeral Food | General Cooking | |||
Funeral Food Again | General Cooking | |||
More funeral food | General Cooking | |||
More Funeral Food | General Cooking |