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> >
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> >> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
> >>
> >> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the time
> >> I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
> >>
> >> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
> >> TFM®
> >
> > Good for you.
> >
> > You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted for
> > you.
>
>
> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things that
> wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had her
> handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>
> I understand that's the way it works.
>
> TFM®

It is indeed.

Just don't watch the movie "Ghost".

It's been nearly 7 years since I lost my best friend and I still have to
watch that one alone. I cry thru the entire thing.
--
Peace! Om

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.
It's about learning to dance in the rain.
-- Anon.

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> In article > ,
> TFM® > wrote:
>
>> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> >
>> > "TFM®" > wrote in message
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>> >> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>> >>
>> >> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>> >> time
>> >> I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>> >>
>> >> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>> >> TFM®
>> >
>> > Good for you.
>> >
>> > You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>> > for
>> > you.
>>
>>
>> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
>> that
>> wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had her
>> handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>>
>> I understand that's the way it works.
>>
>> TFM®
>
> It is indeed.
>
> Just don't watch the movie "Ghost".
>
> It's been nearly 7 years since I lost my best friend and I still have to
> watch that one alone. I cry thru the entire thing.


Ass. ;-) I have 2 bottles of wine and I haven't seen that movie in eons.
If I can get it downloaded tonight I guess I'll have a good cry before the
BBQ contest tomorrow.

TFM®

In article > ,
TFM® > wrote:

> >> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> >> that
> >> wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had her
> >> handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
> >>
> >> I understand that's the way it works.
> >>
> >> TFM®
> >
> > It is indeed.
> >
> > Just don't watch the movie "Ghost".
> >
> > It's been nearly 7 years since I lost my best friend and I still have to
> > watch that one alone. I cry thru the entire thing.
>
>
> Ass. ;-)

Sorry!

> I have 2 bottles of wine and I haven't seen that movie in eons.
> If I can get it downloaded tonight I guess I'll have a good cry before the
> BBQ contest tomorrow.
>
> TFM®

<hugs> babe! And good luck at the BBQ contest...
--
Peace! Om

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.
It's about learning to dance in the rain.
-- Anon.

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> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
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>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>
>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the time
>>> I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>
>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>> TFM®
>>
>> Good for you.
>>
>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted for
>> you.
>
>
> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had her
> handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>
> I understand that's the way it works.
>

My sister in law along with their kids gave me a precious gift a few years
after I lost my 23 year old son. They gave me a box that was decorated and
adorned with a bow and called it a "memory box". They preloaded it with
some of their memories of my son, and stocked it with blank paper for me to
add memories when they come to me. So now when something sparks a happy
memory, I write it down and drop the paper in the box. I can read them
every now and then when I need to think good thoughts when I miss him so
much.

Cheryl wrote:
> "TFM®" > wrote in message
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>> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
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>>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
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>>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>>
>>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>>>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>>
>>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>>> TFM®
>>>
>>> Good for you.
>>>
>>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>>> for you.
>>
>>
>> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
>> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
>> her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>>
>> I understand that's the way it works.
>>
>
> My sister in law along with their kids gave me a precious gift a few
> years after I lost my 23 year old son. They gave me a box that was
> decorated and adorned with a bow and called it a "memory box". They
> preloaded it with some of their memories of my son, and stocked it with
> blank paper for me to add memories when they come to me. So now when
> something sparks a happy memory, I write it down and drop the paper in
> the box. I can read them every now and then when I need to think good
> thoughts when I miss him so much.

I miss my 21 year old daughter, too.It's over 12 years since she died,
but the pain doesn't go away. I'm sending you a huge cyber hug. I
understand where you are.

--
Janet Wilder
way-the-heck-south Texas
spelling doesn't count
but cooking does

"TFM®" > wrote in message
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> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
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>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
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>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>
>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the time
>>> I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>
>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>> TFM®
>>
>> Good for you.
>>
>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted for
>> you.
>
>
> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had her
> handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>
> I understand that's the way it works.
>
> TFM®


No one said it was going to be easy or that it would not hurt - it always
does. Just hang in there.

FWIW take a look here and see where you are.
http://www.way2hope.org/5_stages_of_grief_and_loss.htm

You'll then know what to expect and/or strive for.

Good luck.

Dimitri

On Thu 02 Apr 2009 05:53:00a, TFM® told us...

>
>
> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
>> . com...
>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>
>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>
>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>> TFM®
>>
>> Good for you.
>>
>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>> for you.
>
>
> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
> her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>
> I understand that's the way it works.
>
> TFM®

I have never lost a partner, Alan, but I have lost both parents and
numerous friends in recent years. Part of my healing was getting through
the first entire year of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Each
first one was like a punch in the gut.

It's been 19 years since my father's death and 11 years since my mother's
death. I still grieve for them on many occasions, but the passing of time
has eased the pain. We never forget, but we become accustomed to not
having them.

Two months ago I lost a very dear friend. That loss is still a very raw
feeling.

You'll get through this, especially with the help of family and friends,
and it will get easier. It's a slow process.

Best always,

--
Wayne Boatwright

"One man's meat is another man's poison"
- Oswald Dykes, English writer, 1709.

"Wayne Boatwright" > wrote in message
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> On Thu 02 Apr 2009 05:53:00a, TFM® told us...
>
>>
>>
>> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>>
>>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
>>> . com...
>>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>>
>>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>>>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>>
>>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>>> TFM®
>>>
>>> Good for you.
>>>
>>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>>> for you.
>>
>>
>> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
>> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
>> her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>>
>> I understand that's the way it works.
>>
>> TFM®
>
> I have never lost a partner, Alan, but I have lost both parents and
> numerous friends in recent years. Part of my healing was getting through
> the first entire year of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Each
> first one was like a punch in the gut.


Her birthday was traumatic for me. I could barely function for a week after
that.

Upcoming are the wedding anniversary (October 16th) and Christmas. I will
never look forward to Christmas again.

TFM®

In article > ,
TFM® > wrote:

> I will
> never look forward to Christmas again.
>
> TFM®

I know THAT feeling! The only thing that brought me out of that somewhat
was my sister moving back to here from Arizona. Now I get to share
Christmas with her and my two nephews.

I get to babysit again tomorrow. :-)
--
Peace! Om

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.
It's about learning to dance in the rain.
-- Anon.

On Fri 03 Apr 2009 05:58:56p, TFM® told us...

>
>
> "Wayne Boatwright" > wrote in message
> 5.250...
>> On Thu 02 Apr 2009 05:53:00a, TFM® told us...
>>
>>>
>>>
>>> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>>>
>>>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
>>>> . com...
>>>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
>>>>>
>>>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>>>>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
>>>>>
>>>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>>>> TFM®
>>>>
>>>> Good for you.
>>>>
>>>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>>>> for you.
>>>
>>>
>>> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
>>> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
>>> her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
>>>
>>> I understand that's the way it works.
>>>
>>> TFM®
>>
>> I have never lost a partner, Alan, but I have lost both parents and
>> numerous friends in recent years. Part of my healing was getting
>> through the first entire year of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries,
>> etc. Each first one was like a punch in the gut.
>
>
> Her birthday was traumatic for me. I could barely function for a week
> after that.
>
> Upcoming are the wedding anniversary (October 16th) and Christmas. I
> will never look forward to Christmas again.
>
> TFM®
>
>

I truly understand that, Alan. Christmas has never been the same again for
me. I wish you the best...

--
Wayne Boatwright

"One man's meat is another man's poison"
- Oswald Dykes, English writer, 1709.

On Fri, 3 Apr 2009 20:58:56 -0400, TFM® >
wrote:

>I will never look forward to Christmas again.

"They" say that's what happens. Dote on your grandchild and give
him/her the love you would have given to Kili. She will be smile on
you when you do. Eventually you may come to view xmas through your
grandchild's eye.

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

Lil' Wayne Boatwright's crocodile tears welled up thusly:

> On Thu 02 Apr 2009 05:53:00a, TFM® told us...
>
> >
> >
> > "Dimitri" > wrote in message
> > ...
> >>
> >> "TFM®" > wrote in message
> >> . com...
> >>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
> >>>
> >>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
> >>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
> >>>
> >>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
> >>> TFM®
> >>
> >> Good for you.
> >>
> >> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
> >> for you.
> >
> >
> > I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> > that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
> > her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
> >
> > I understand that's the way it works.
> >
> > TFM®
>
> I have never lost a partner, Alan, but I have lost both parents and
> numerous friends in recent years. Part of my healing was getting through
> the first entire year of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Each
> first one was like a punch in the gut.
>
> It's been 19 years since my father's death and 11 years since my mother's
> death. I still grieve for them on many occasions, but the passing of time
> has eased the pain. We never forget, but we become accustomed to not
> having them.
>
> Two months ago I lost a very dear friend. That loss is still a very raw
> feeling.
>
> You'll get through this, especially with the help of family and friends,
> and it will get easier. It's a slow process.
>
> Best always,


If we need cheap sentiment we can buy a Hallmark card, Lil' Wayne...

Your are the King - or shall we say "Queen" of foney-balonie BS, lol...


--
Best
Greg

"The trouble with socialism is that you eventually run out of other
people's money."~~~~Margaret Thatcher

TFM® > wrote in news:49c467c5$0$32026
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> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.

Be careful of that anniversary. Any anniversary, to be truthful. Try to be
doing something that you love and don't notice it's passing.