On Thu 02 Apr 2009 05:53:00a, TFM® told us...

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> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
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>> "TFM®" > wrote in message
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>>> would have been 41 today. It's her birthday.
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>>> She was an absolute angel in my life. I'm so happy to have had the
>>> time I did have with her, and I'm so sad that it was cut so short.
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>>> Aloha nui loa to all of you,
>>> TFM®
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>> Good for you.
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>> You're sounding better which is what I believe she would have wanted
>> for you.
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> I'm feeling better for longer periods of time now. I still see things
> that wreck me emotionally. I pulled out a DVD the other day that had
> her handwriting on it. Let's cry for an hour...
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> I understand that's the way it works.
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> TFM®

I have never lost a partner, Alan, but I have lost both parents and
numerous friends in recent years. Part of my healing was getting through
the first entire year of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Each
first one was like a punch in the gut.

It's been 19 years since my father's death and 11 years since my mother's
death. I still grieve for them on many occasions, but the passing of time
has eased the pain. We never forget, but we become accustomed to not
having them.

Two months ago I lost a very dear friend. That loss is still a very raw
feeling.

You'll get through this, especially with the help of family and friends,
and it will get easier. It's a slow process.

Best always,

--
Wayne Boatwright

"One man's meat is another man's poison"
- Oswald Dykes, English writer, 1709.