"sf" > wrote in message
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> On Thu, 13 Nov 2008 12:11:15 -0800, "Dimitri" >
> wrote:
>
>>We have unlimited phone service so she can chat with her other kids. We
>>have set up a webcam & I can pipe the laptop webcam into the TV and the
>>sound through the sound system. She'll sit there and chat with her great
>>grandkids like it was nothing.
>
> Wow! She's not afraid of modern technology and you're not keeping it
> away from her. It's a win, win situation.
>>
>>I have no objection to her decision the only thing necessary was the
>>paramedic instructions needed to be countersigned by her primary
>>physician.
>>
>>When she's ready she'll make her decision and that will be that.
>
> Considering the technology you've introduced to her and provide for
> her, it sounds like her quality of life is wonderful and when she
> decides to go - she'll die happy.


Actually she is not fearful of death - she is fearful of the process.

I think that is fairly normal.

Dimitri

On Fri, 14 Nov 2008 09:18:27 -0800, "Dimitri" >
wrote:

>Actually she is not fearful of death - she is fearful of the process.
>
>I think that is fairly normal.

If she's fairly healthy now, the process may not be a problem. My
great-grandfather (the one I knew - who lived next door to me) died in
his sleep with his hands characteristically folded over his chest.

One grandfather actually keeled over on his way to bed.

It could be worse. Dying in a hospital with tubes everywhere is my
worst nightmare. I will make sure the word *Hospice* is mentioned
many times when my health declines. My mother had ovarian cancer
(long sad story in between), but she took charge of her own death and
didn't allow modern medicine to intervene. She did what her mother
did - and if I need to, I'll do the same thing when the time comes.



--
I never worry about diets. The only carrots that
interest me are the number of carats in a diamond.

Mae West

On Fri, 14 Nov 2008 09:18:27 -0800, Dimitri wrote:

> "sf" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>> Considering the technology you've introduced to her and provide for
>> her, it sounds like her quality of life is wonderful and when she
>> decides to go - she'll die happy.
>
>
> Actually she is not fearful of death - she is fearful of the process.
>
> I think that is fairly normal.
>
> Dimitri

who the hell wants to die in a place you can't smoke or drink? you might
as well be in church.

your pal,
blake

On Fri 14 Nov 2008 10:18:27a, Dimitri told us...

>
> "sf" > wrote in message
> ...
>> On Thu, 13 Nov 2008 12:11:15 -0800, "Dimitri" >
>> wrote:
>>
>>>We have unlimited phone service so she can chat with her other kids. We
>>>have set up a webcam & I can pipe the laptop webcam into the TV and the
>>>sound through the sound system. She'll sit there and chat with her
great
>>>grandkids like it was nothing.
>>
>> Wow! She's not afraid of modern technology and you're not keeping it
>> away from her. It's a win, win situation.
>>>
>>>I have no objection to her decision the only thing necessary was the
>>>paramedic instructions needed to be countersigned by her primary
>>>physician.
>>>
>>>When she's ready she'll make her decision and that will be that.
>>
>> Considering the technology you've introduced to her and provide for
>> her, it sounds like her quality of life is wonderful and when she
>> decides to go - she'll die happy.
>
>
> Actually she is not fearful of death - she is fearful of the process.
>
> I think that is fairly normal.

I agree, Dimitri. Even at an age when I don’t “expect” to die soon, I am
not afraid of being dead, but I am indeed fearful of the process of dying.
When both my parents died they were in pain, my mother in particular. I
think I fear pain and suffering the most.

--
Wayne Boatwright
(correct the spelling of "geemail" to reply)
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