>Servers are
>trained to "anticipate" the needs of their guests'. If the server came
>to the table I am sure he/she sensed that there was something possibly
>needed at the table at the time (since the pace at the table started
>to "slow down").

You missed the point of the thread. And you seem pretty confident of things
that you had no way of observing. It is the experience of many that waiters
(can we eject "servers"?) insensitively intrude on intimate situations, and
that this tendency seems to be increasing.

>I can guarantee that if the poster had needed something and the server
>was not there at that exact moment she would still be complaining!

Again, by what warrant do you issue such guarantees? For most of us, the
intruding waiter is MUCH more obnoxious than the neglectful one. And we know,
if a waiter is neglectful, we have the option of rising and seeking him out--as
I have done, for instance, if I need the bill because I'm in a hurry to leave.

Neil