"Nancy Young" > wrote in message
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> The scariest thing you said, no offense meant, is the bill paying thing
> ...
> if you kick the bucket tomorrow, is she equipped to take care of the
> finances? Does she know where the money is? Etc?

I meant paid the bill in a restaurant. She has paid the bills at home, but
you do bring up a very god point. Often when the spouse in charge of
finance dies, the other is left with problems. I've take some precaustion
on that. For one thing, I pay some bills on line but I keep the paper
statements coming "just in case" the computer dies or I do.

As for the other things, she is actually quite capable, but I prefer to do
it for her. She does other things for me. When I get out of the shower in
the morning, my breakfast is ready and my lunch is made and packed.


>
> Again, no offense meant, you step in front of a bus tomorrow, it came
> across that she will be left, not only heartbroken, but helpless.

No offense taken. My brohter passed away just over a year ago. his wife had
no clue about some things. Every one should have an envelope iwth at least
basic insructions how to find bank accounts, insurance policies, pasword to
the computer or any other little bits of information to help those left with
the chore of settling things.

"Edwin Pawlowski" > wrote in message
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> "Nancy Young" > wrote in message
>> The scariest thing you said, no offense meant, is the bill paying thing
>> ...
>> if you kick the bucket tomorrow, is she equipped to take care of the
>> finances? Does she know where the money is? Etc?
>
> I meant paid the bill in a restaurant.

Oh! (laugh) That's a little different. I was quite surprised to see you
say something like that, recipe for disaster.

> She has paid the bills at home, but you do bring up a very god point.
> Often when the spouse in charge of finance dies, the other is left with
> problems. I've take some precaustion on that. For one thing, I pay some
> bills on line but I keep the paper statements coming "just in case" the
> computer dies or I do.

Good move. I pay the bills, but I have most of them automatically
deducted from my checking account, I just keep way too much money
in my account so I don't even have to think about it.

> As for the other things, she is actually quite capable, but I prefer to do
> it for her. She does other things for me. When I get out of the shower in
> the morning, my breakfast is ready and my lunch is made and packed.

Hey, I didn't mean to imply she was incompetent. I knew when I posted
I was skating on thin ice.

> No offense taken. My brohter passed away just over a year ago. his wife
> had no clue about some things. Every one should have an envelope iwth at
> least basic insructions how to find bank accounts, insurance policies,
> pasword to the computer or any other little bits of information to help
> those left with the chore of settling things.

I could not agree more. I keep a file in a safe place, plus people know
where
to find it. Unfortunately, and I'm dreading it, I just have to call my
mother and
ask about that ... after all, I'm her executor, I couldn't tell you where
her money
is, like that.

nancy