A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.

I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.

On Oct 19, 11:01*am, Kalmia > wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.

I wouldn't bother. Sounds like if you do then he'll have one more
reason to belittle her.

Chemo the Clown wrote:
> On Oct 19, 11:01 am, Kalmia > wrote:
>> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>>
>> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
> I wouldn't bother. Sounds like if you do then he'll have one more
> reason to belittle her.

Nothing in the OP implied he was "belittling" her to me. It just sounds
like he liked them and she doesn't bake much. Or maybe she didn't like
them at all and doesn't want to announce it publicly. Then again, maybe
he's just being polite recalling the one dish he recalls and says it to
flatter Kalmia? Who knows.
I don't see this as an etiquette dilemma really. Make a batch or make
something else but I'd do it in advance and not expect to do it there as
that may be a bit presumptuous. I'm sure he'll appreciate anything he's
given.

On Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:42:38 -0400, Goomba >
wrote:

>I don't see this as an etiquette dilemma really. Make a batch or make
>something else but I'd do it in advance and not expect to do it there as
>that may be a bit presumptuous. I'm sure he'll appreciate anything he's
>given.

Or even putting the dry ingredients together with instructions for the
rest... just like any other mix.

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

Kalmia said...

> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.


Kalmia,

One one hand, I wouldn't bother as she could take offense. On the other hand
you could make a batch at your home and bring him two in a zip lock baggie,
saying "I made a batch and I remember you liked them so I saved two for
you," or something diplomatic like that?

Best,

Andy

Andy wrote:
> Kalmia said...
>
>> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>>
>> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
>
> Kalmia,
>
> One one hand, I wouldn't bother as she could take offense. On the other hand
> you could make a batch at your home and bring him two in a zip lock baggie,
> saying "I made a batch and I remember you liked them so I saved two for
> you," or something diplomatic like that?
>
> Best,
>
> Andy

I liked Andy's answer.

I'd make them and take some. You never know why she doesn't make them.
Maybe she is like me and a terrible baker.

But taking them some can't hurt. She can always pitch them after you
leave if she has issues :-)

Bob

On Oct 19, 11:49*am, Andy > wrote:
> Kalmia said...
>
> > A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> > visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> > mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> > why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> > I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> > or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
> Kalmia,
>
> One one hand, I wouldn't bother as she could take offense. On the other hand
> you could make a batch at your home and bring him two in a zip lock baggie,
> saying "I made a batch and I remember you liked them so I saved two for
> you," or something diplomatic like that?
>
> Best,
>
> Andy

Yeah...and then maybe they could hook up later out in the barn.

Kalmia wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.

Ask. Ask him, or ask her, but ask, is my advice.

"Oh, I remember Malcolm loved my potato-rosemary-pumpkin muffins. I'm
going to be baking some soon; shall I bring some along with me?"

Serene

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"I tend to come down on the side of autonomy. Once people are grown up,
I believe they have the right to go to hell in the handbasket of their
choosing." -- Pat Kight, on alt.polyamory

On Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:32:01 -0700, Serene Vannoy
> wrote:

>potato-rosemary-pumpkin muffins

So, you're just going to tease us? No recipe?

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

"Kalmia" > wrote in message
...
>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.

It really depends on how close you are to her.

Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.

Think if the situation were reversed.


--
Dimitri

Penne Rigate Autunnale

http://kitchenguide.wordpress.com.

"Dimitri" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Kalmia" > wrote in message
> ...
>>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>>
>> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.

> It really depends on how close you are to her.
>
> Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.

Sheesh, Dimitri, IT'S HIS HOME, TOO!

Felice

"Felice" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
> ...
> >
> > "Kalmia" > wrote in message
> >
...
> >>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> >> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
> >> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
> >> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
> >>
> >> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> >> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
> > It really depends on how close you are to her.
> >
> > Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.
>
> Sheesh, Dimitri, IT'S HIS HOME, TOO!

not according to Dr. Phil!

On Tue, 20 Oct 2009 07:18:30 -0700, "123go" >
wrote:

>
>"Felice" > wrote in message
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>>
>> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> >
>> > "Kalmia" > wrote in message
>> >
...
>> >>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>> >> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>> >> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>> >> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>> >>
>> >> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>> >> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>>
>> > It really depends on how close you are to her.
>> >
>> > Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.
>>
>> Sheesh, Dimitri, IT'S HIS HOME, TOO!
>
>not according to Dr. Phil!

In that case, Dr. Phil is running out of things to say.

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

On Tue, 20 Oct 2009 09:44:38 -0400, "Felice" >
wrote:

>
>"Dimitri" > wrote in message
...
>>
>> "Kalmia" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>>> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>>> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>>> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>>>
>>> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>>> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
>> It really depends on how close you are to her.
>>
>> Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.
>
>Sheesh, Dimitri, IT'S HIS HOME, TOO!
>
Frankly, if someone has to ask a question like that, they don't know
the couple very well. I say make them and take them over. Don't make
excuses either, just say "I know you like these, so I made some for
you".

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

"Felice" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Dimitri" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>> "Kalmia" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>>A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
>>> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
>>> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
>>> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>>>
>>> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
>>> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.
>
>> It really depends on how close you are to her.
>>
>> Follow her lead IT'S HER HOME.
>
> Sheesh, Dimitri, IT'S HIS HOME, TOO!
>
> Felice

No way.......

:-)

Dimitri

On Mon, 19 Oct 2009 11:01:30 -0700 (PDT), Kalmia wrote:

> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? I'm afraid she'll take offense.

maybe you should ask her. the reason may be as innocuous as she doesn't
like to bake, or bake using an unfamiliar recipe.

your pal,
blake

On Oct 19, 2:01*pm, Kalmia > wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.

I would take a batch as a hostess gift. Unless you're there every
day, once in a while making something that you know someone will like
is not harmful (unless of course the fellow has just had surgery or is
lactose, gluten, or otherwise going to be made sick by eating them).

maxine in ri

On Oct 19, 2:01*pm, Kalmia > wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.

Good grief, it's a gift.
Make a batch at home, bring them along.
If they get offended because you brought them something homemade as a
gift, then there is something wrong with THEM, not you.
I never understood the prevailing attitude here about bringing
something home made when you're invited someplace.

It's a gift. It's a kind gesture. Take it in the spirit with which it
is given and deal with it!

On Oct 19, 1:01*pm, Kalmia > wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.

Made me think of Granny and Pearl, first season of Beverly
Hillbillies.

--Bryan

On Oct 19, 1:01*pm, Kalmia > wrote:
> A friend's husband liked some muffins I made once when they were
> visiting. *He expressed interest and I gave her the recipe. *He has
> mentioned them many times and she refuses to bake 'em. *I don't know
> why - could be his weight problem or she just hates to bake.
>
> I am going to their house for a short visit - should I make em there,
> or take em, or just not bother? *I'm afraid she'll take offense.

Update: I didn't make and take them, didn't even mention them while I
was there. It made packing a bit easier, plus having to shop for the
wet ingredients after I got there. (We're talking about a thousand
mile distance between us...)