I've said it probably 20 times in this tread and elsewhere that "I
don't claim to be an expert on China or Chinese things". I DO believe
that being here and learning from people that were raised in this
countries culture has it's merits.

Judging by your English level (saying that you're 25), you probably
weren't raised on the mainland. Where exactly do you hail from? Are
we getting information from someone that's only read books on the topic?