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cshenk

Doris Night wrote:

> On Sat, 17 Mar 2018 18:22:42 GMT, Wayne Boatwright
> > wrote:
>
> > On Sat 17 Mar 2018 10:36:10a, Dave Smith told us...
> >
> >> On 2018-03-17 10:57 AM, wrote:
> >>> On Saturday, March 17, 2018 at 9:13:10 AM UTC-5, Wayne Boatwright
> >>> wrote:
> > > > >
> >>>> In the USA a "recepton" where the food is being contributed by
> >>>> some or all of the guests or attendees, it can easily be
> >>>> construed as a potluck. It doesn't matter whether its comprised
> >>>> of appetizes, main dishes or desserts. If it's catered or all
> >>>> provided by one source (family, company, etc.) then it's simply
> >>>> a reception of some sort. There are numerous references on the
> >>>> Internet to "potluck receptionss". Regardless of what Tert calls
> >>>> it, in my book it still sounds like a potluck.
> > > > >
> > > > >
> >>> Maybe I'm wrong but I've always considered any reception, get
> >>> together, gathering, etc. when you are requested to bring a dish
> >>> of your choosing a potluck. If he's told to bring a specific
> >>> dish, and you're told to bring a specific dish, Jill is told to
> >>> bring a specific dish, Cheri is also told to bring a certain
> >>> dish, and I'm told to bring a certain dish, then no, I would not
> >>> call that a potluck.
> > > >
> >>
> >> I don't think you are wrong. Even if you are asked to bring a
> >> dessert, a salad, an appetizer..... as long as the dish is not
> >> specifically named, they get what you bring.... potluck.
> >>
> >> This is different from the party that my brother's friends were
> >> invited to. After accepting the invitation she was asked to bring
> >> specific items. She was asked to bring two roasted beef
> >> tenderloins. Note that was two entire roasted loins. She was
> >> also asked two bottles of wine, a red and a white. The hostess <?>
> >> told her which wines she wanted her to bring, and they expensive.
> >> Never mind that this friend rarely drinks and that her husband
> >> does not drink at all, they were looking at $175-200 to buy the
> >> items she was asked to contribute to the hostess' husband's
> >> birthday party. She made up an excuse to make it to the party.
> >
> > If I were askeed to bring all of that, I certainl would not have
> > gone. That's unreasonable, and being taken advantage of.
>
> If I were asked to bring something like that, I would have arranged to
> be a last-minute no-show.
>
> Doris

I'd have told them no right up front. 'Thank you and we like you but I
don't have the time or money to handle that list I am requested to
bring'.

Simple, sends the point and isn't leaving them waiting for part of the
meal.