"Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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> "Storrmmee" > wrote in message
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>>i hope he recovers quickly, Lee
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> Thanks! I hope he gets well enough to drive because my mom can't do
> it. I don't really fancy having to drive them everywhere. When we
> moved back here we did try to buy a house in their city but we just
> couldn't afford it. Actually the house next door to them was for sale.
> I did live in it once. But it has stairs and that is no good for me.
> So we didn't consider it.
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> We live far enough away from them now that it is a pain to have to
> keep going out there. My brother and SIL do live near them but her
> parents are both in really bad shape and they have been doing a lot to
> help with them.

Well there is still time to think about and discuss amongst yourselves
worst case scenarios. I think if he ever drives again it might be a long
time coming. But people adapt to that. My grandparents had to when it
was no longer safe for my grandfather to drive (not that he was ever
safe, but that's another story!) Once things have settled down I think
it quite fair to say take your mum shopping for food every so often, pay
bills whatever but not be expected to be on call as such. I actually
think it was better you aren't living close by given they are a "bit"
difficult. I think most aging people know there will come a time when
life changes for them.