On 12/9/2018 10:51 AM, Dave Smith wrote:
> On 2018-12-09 9:44 AM, jmcquown wrote:
>> On 12/8/2018 6:30 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>
>>>> I don't like the tip automatically to the bill.Â* The waitstaff know
>>>> they
>>>> will receive a tip whether they are an attentive waiter or one who dis-
>>>> appears after the food has been delivered.
>>>
>>> I have had excellent service in non tipping countries, and I did not
>>> at all miss the tip soliciting behaviour.
>>>
>> I can't say I've ever experienced "tip soliciting behaviour".Â* What
>> does that even mean?Â* Being obsequious?Â* Nope, I can't say I've
>> encountered that.
>
>
> Are you kidding.Â* It is no secret. Psychology today even wrote an
> article about it.

Uh... I don't actually care what Psychology Today has to say about it.
I'm basing this on my own experience.

> They noted that women who wear something in their hair
> get more tips from men and women than those who do not.

So... I'm supposed to think because someone wears a barrette or a flower
ornament in their hair they're schemeing to get more tips? How about
they're just keeping it pinned up out of the way?

> Waitress who
> gently touch their customers on the shoulder, arm or hand get larger
> tips. The customers who are touched tend to buy more drinks, offering
> more opportunities for tips.

I've never ever had a server touch me.

> Introducing themselves by name gets bigger
> tips.

That's company policy. They usually wear name tags, too.

> They suggest setting up reciprocity.Â* They do things like writing
> a little note on the bill.

I've never gotten little notes on my restaurant bills. Even if I did it
wouldn't induce me to tip more.

> If the food is late they tell you the chef
> didn't think it was up to his standards so he did it over again. They
> have done you a favour....so pay up.Â* They repeat the orders, leading to
> a sense of sameness, which will prompt you to tip more.Â* At the bottom
> of their list is offering good service.
>
Apparently we have dined in very different places.

Jill