In article >,
wrote:

> From "Anne of Green Gables":
>
> "...But it isn't good manners to tell your company what you are going to give
> them to eat, so I won't tell you what she said we could have to drink. Only
> it begins with an r and a c and it's a bright red color. I love bright red
> drinks, don't you? They taste twice as good as any other color."
>
>
> What I wonder is, why WAS it bad manners, in 1908, to "tell your company what
> you are going to give them to eat"? Does anyone know?
>

I don't know why it was like that, but I do like the concept. Now days
every guest seems to bring a list of what's acceptable. Just look to
posts like:

"Does anyone have any nice veggie meals to share. I have a friend
coming for dinner again and I am all out of something new."

"Mark Storkamp" > wrote in message
...
> In article >,
> wrote:
>
>> From "Anne of Green Gables":
>>
>> "...But it isn't good manners to tell your company what you are going to
>> give
>> them to eat, so I won't tell you what she said we could have to drink.
>> Only
>> it begins with an r and a c and it's a bright red color. I love bright
>> red
>> drinks, don't you? They taste twice as good as any other color."
>>
>>
>> What I wonder is, why WAS it bad manners, in 1908, to "tell your company
>> what
>> you are going to give them to eat"? Does anyone know?
>>
>
> I don't know why it was like that, but I do like the concept. Now days
> every guest seems to bring a list of what's acceptable. Just look to
> posts like:
>
> "Does anyone have any nice veggie meals to share. I have a friend
> coming for dinner again and I am all out of something new."

Why is that unacceptable?


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"Ophelia" > wrote in message
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>
>
> "Mark Storkamp" > wrote in message
> ...
>> In article >,
>> wrote:
>>
>>> From "Anne of Green Gables":
>>>
>>> "...But it isn't good manners to tell your company what you are going to
>>> give
>>> them to eat, so I won't tell you what she said we could have to drink.
>>> Only
>>> it begins with an r and a c and it's a bright red color. I love bright
>>> red
>>> drinks, don't you? They taste twice as good as any other color."
>>>
>>>
>>> What I wonder is, why WAS it bad manners, in 1908, to "tell your company
>>> what
>>> you are going to give them to eat"? Does anyone know?
>>>
>>
>> I don't know why it was like that, but I do like the concept. Now days
>> every guest seems to bring a list of what's acceptable. Just look to
>> posts like:
>>
>> "Does anyone have any nice veggie meals to share. I have a friend
>> coming for dinner again and I am all out of something new."
>
> Why is that unacceptable?

It's not but... It would seem that these days, more and more people have
dietary issues and it is generally acceptable to mention these or for guests
to bring their own food or at least some of it. Apparently in the old days
this would be frowned upon and you would be expected to eat whatever is put
before you or at least pretend to.

"Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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>
> "Ophelia" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>>
>> "Mark Storkamp" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> In article >,
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> From "Anne of Green Gables":
>>>>
>>>> "...But it isn't good manners to tell your company what you are going
>>>> to
>>>> give
>>>> them to eat, so I won't tell you what she said we could have to drink.
>>>> Only
>>>> it begins with an r and a c and it's a bright red color. I love bright
>>>> red
>>>> drinks, don't you? They taste twice as good as any other color."
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> What I wonder is, why WAS it bad manners, in 1908, to "tell your
>>>> company
>>>> what
>>>> you are going to give them to eat"? Does anyone know?
>>>>
>>>
>>> I don't know why it was like that, but I do like the concept. Now days
>>> every guest seems to bring a list of what's acceptable. Just look to
>>> posts like:
>>>
>>> "Does anyone have any nice veggie meals to share. I have a friend
>>> coming for dinner again and I am all out of something new."
>>
>> Why is that unacceptable?
>
> It's not but... It would seem that these days, more and more people have
> dietary issues and it is generally acceptable to mention these or for
> guests to bring their own food or at least some of it. Apparently in the
> old days this would be frowned upon and you would be expected to eat
> whatever is put before you or at least pretend to.

*shrug* The friend I am referring to wouldn't insist on anything and if I
didn't bother, he would just eat around what there was. He is thrilled
though when I do make the effort.



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On Wed, 17 Feb 2016 09:47:04 -0000, "Ophelia" >
wrote:
>
> *shrug* The friend I am referring to wouldn't insist on anything and if I
> didn't bother, he would just eat around what there was. He is thrilled
> though when I do make the effort.

That's the way considerate guests conduct themselves and I think the
majority fall into that category. Those who have strict dietary
guidelines (Celiac, Orthodox Jew, Muslim) are different than those who
want us to cater to their often temporary whims (vegan/vegetarian) -
and would rather not put us through the bother. I don't know how
Celiacs do it without constantly playing the host, because my
non-Celiac DD is so sensitive to gluten that she can be "glutened" (a
new term to me) by trace amounts and feel terrible for days afterward.

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"sf" > wrote in message
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> On Wed, 17 Feb 2016 09:47:04 -0000, "Ophelia" >
> wrote:
>>
>> *shrug* The friend I am referring to wouldn't insist on anything and if I
>> didn't bother, he would just eat around what there was. He is thrilled
>> though when I do make the effort.
>
> That's the way considerate guests conduct themselves and I think the
> majority fall into that category. Those who have strict dietary
> guidelines (Celiac, Orthodox Jew, Muslim) are different than those who
> want us to cater to their often temporary whims (vegan/vegetarian) -
> and would rather not put us through the bother. I don't know how
> Celiacs do it without constantly playing the host, because my
> non-Celiac DD is so sensitive to gluten that she can be "glutened" (a
> new term to me) by trace amounts and feel terrible for days afterward.

I guess I am very lucky. I don't have any friends like that ... but who
knows ... one day ... )


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