Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
week vacation on the west coast.

Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.

We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
good assortment of food to serve.

Dave Smith wrote:

> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
> month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
> of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
> he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
> week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.



Be well, Dave...good vibes from Chicawgo :-)

We'll think of some good recipes for you, no worries...

--
Best
Greg

"Dave Smith" > wrote

> An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>

I'm sorry for your loss, Dave.

Dave Smith wrote:

> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.


Oh, I am so sorry. May we send flowers? Is there a favorite charity we
could donate to? Let me know.


--Lia

"Dave Smith" > wrote

> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
> that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her
> in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to
> have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

I'm so sorry to hear that, Dave. My condolences to you and your
family.

nancy

On Apr 23, 6:08 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
> month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
> of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
> he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
> week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.

condolances on your loss, but it was perhaps easiest for her. When my
FIL passed over, it was the day before thanksgiving, and the family
held his memorial and interrment of ashes in May. Everyone of the
family was able to attend, those from far afield had the time to
arrange flights and such.
maxine in ri

On Apr 23, 6:08 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:

> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. [..]

Dave, I'm sorry to hear of your loss, and you're right the
timing is never good. My sympathies to you and yours.

Steve

On Apr 23, 3:08 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

My sincerest condolences, Dave. Having lost my mom in the not too
distant past (under similar circumstances), I know what you're going
through.

sf

Dave Smith wrote:
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies
> for a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.

My condolences. I side with your children
on the prolonged schedule, but whatever you
and your brothers decide should be accepted
without complaint by everybody else.

I'm puzzled by why her memorial is scheduled
so far in the future. If she's cremated, it's
not like you're waiting for the ground to thaw.

It's hard to say whether a fast death or a
slow one is best. My dad died in 2002 after
a two-year bout with cancer, which we knew
from the start was unlikely to be beaten.
(It was Stage IV when it was discovered.)

This gave him plenty of time to get his
rather complex finances in order to minimize
any problems for mom. But toward the end
he experienced some of the worst pain of
his life. After my two severe gout attacks
in 2000, I can certainly agree that pain
can be so severe that you'd rather not live
if it included such terrible pain.
I remember thinking that while on the floor
of my kitchen trying to adjust my position
to minimize the pain. Fortunately, I knew
that within a few days the pain would be
gone. But after going through that hell
(twice, a few weeks apart), I'll not dispute
anybody who says they would rather die than
live. (Dad never suggested he wanted to die,
and he always had a bottle of morphine
available toward the end, but he never used
even a drop of it.)

Dave,

My condolences to you and yours on your loss.

Andy

Dave Smith wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
> month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
> of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
> he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
> week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.

My deepest sympathy. The death of a Mother is always especially painful
and you lost yours so suddenly. I am very sorry. Margaret

On Apr 23, 7:08�pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. *last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. *She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. *She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. *I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. *An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
> month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
> of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away *and retiring,
> he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
> week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. *We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. *So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.

Dave, please accept my sympathies for your loss. True, what time is
ever a good time to pass... your mother's passing sounds very much
like how my own mother left us. Honeycake with almonds and schnapps
all around.

Sheldon

On Apr 23, 7:08 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
> month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
> of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
> he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
> week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.

Dave, I am so sorry to hear of your mother's sudden passing. My
sympathies to you and all your family during this difficult time.

"margaret suran" > wrote in message
nk.net...
> Dave Smith wrote:
>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
>> that
>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her
>> in
>> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
>> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
>> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
>> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
>> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to
>> have
>> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
>> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

She didn't linger which is a comfort. Still..........it's hard.

elaine

Julia Altshuler wrote:
>
>
>
> Oh, I am so sorry. May we send flowers? Is there a favorite charity we
> could donate to? Let me know.
>

Thanks, but her wish was that rather than send flowers people should take
their nearest and dearest out for a nice meal.

Dave Smith wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy
> and raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a
> call that she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she
> was having trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when
> we visited her in the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to
> the progressive care unit. The next day I went to see her and she was
> quite confused. On Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal
> time to help her eat. Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My
> brothers and I took turns sitting with her. I went home in the late
> afternoon, not expecting to have to go back, but I returned to the
> hospital just before midnight. An hour and a half later she slipped
> away quietly on my watch.
>
You have my deepest sympathies, Dave.

Jill

elaine wrote:
>
> "
> >> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> >> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
> She didn't linger which is a comfort. Still..........it's hard.


She was 82. She had had one knee replaced. She had diabetes, a pacemaker,
was on digitalis, diuretics, one kidney had pretty well failed,
calcification of the bladder, a problem with a valve in her heart. She was
not taking her diuretics because they made her run to the washroom every 15
minutes. She had not had a good nights sleep in years because she had to
get up and go to the can. She needed a walker to get around. She had
diabetes related circulatory problems and was bound to have to have a foot
or leg amputated in the not to distant future. She did not want that.

My brothers have labelled me Dr.Death. When my father died 9 years ago the
who family had taken their turn sitting by his side. After two full days
of that, most had gone home for a rest leaving me and my mother alone. She
went to the washroom and left me alone with him. He died before she got
back. When I went in late Thursday might my brother joked to my wife not
to leave me alone with her. She left when the nurse came in, leaving me as
the only family member. Once again, leave me alone with a sick parent and
they die on me. Several people have since asked me not to visit them in
the hospital.

We will miss her. She raised four boys. She taught us all how to cook. She
always told me that I was the best cook of the bunch. It may be true, but
she probably said the same to the others. She was always fun to have over
for dinner because she always had something positive to say, even if it had
been a flop.

On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 19:08:44 -0400, Dave Smith
> wrote:

>Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
>she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
>the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
>unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
>Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
>Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
>sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
>to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
>and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>
>The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week for a
>month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in the process
>of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive away and retiring,
>he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew has just left for a three
>week vacation on the west coast.
>
>Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
>June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
>last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies for
>a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
>We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
>goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our house
>for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
>good assortment of food to serve.

I'm sorry to hear this, Dave. If it's any comfort to you, when my
mother-in-law died from a stroke last month, the hospital staff all
said that was the way they wanted to go.

Strength and comfort to your family.
--

modom

http://www.koyote.com/users/modom/home.html

Mark Thorson wrote:
>
>
> My condolences. I side with your children
> on the prolonged schedule, but whatever you
> and your brothers decide should be accepted
> without complaint by everybody else.

Thanks
>
> I'm puzzled by why her memorial is scheduled
> so far in the future. If she's cremated, it's
> not like you're waiting for the ground to thaw.

It accommodates others. One brother has had airline tickets for several
months for a much anticipated trip to England and Ireland. He will be away
for a month, back for a week and then away for another wee. She would not
have wanted him to cancel or postpone the trip. Another brother is in the
process of moving. He had come to see her in the hospital and had to drive
a few hours back home to sign move related papers the next day.He took
possession of the house today and had to get in and paint His wife had
been managing a store and when she went in to resign her boss offered to
start a new store for her to manage down here, so she is busy opening the
new store.... and moving. A nephew just left for vacation for three weeks.
Two grand children are writing final exams at university. Postponing the
ceremonies relieves a lot of stress. I am not religious. I can deal with
the delay, and I don't want to put pressure on anyone else at this time.



>
> It's hard to say whether a fast death or a
> slow one is best. My dad died in 2002 after
> a two-year bout with cancer, which we knew
> from the start was unlikely to be beaten.
> (It was Stage IV when it was discovered.)

That is a horrible way to go. My father died of prostate cancer. It is a
nasty disease. He had had hormone therapy, surgery, radiation. He spent the
least four weeks of his life in the hospital. The last four days he was in
a morphine induced coma, and he was still moaning in pain. Thank goodness
Mom did not have to go through that. No one should have to.


> After my two severe gout attacks
> in 2000, I can certainly agree that pain
> can be so severe that you'd rather not live
> if it included such terrible pain.

I have heard that sour cherry juice is a great treatment for that.
I have also heard that kidney stones are one of the most painful things a
person can be inflicted with.


> I remember thinking that while on the floor
> of my kitchen trying to adjust my position
> to minimize the pain. Fortunately, I knew
> that within a few days the pain would be
> gone. But after going through that hell
> (twice, a few weeks apart), I'll not dispute
> anybody who says they would rather die than
> live. (Dad never suggested he wanted to die,
> and he always had a bottle of morphine
> available toward the end, but he never used
> even a drop of it.)

One night when I was the stables a horse had coliced and had to be put
down. The vet stuck a needle in the horses neck and pushed the plunger. The
1500+ lb. horse dropped instantly and was dead within a minute. I asked her
if I ever had a painful terminal condition if she would do that for me.

I'm so sorry for your loss. All my best to your family.

Tara

"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
> that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing.


You have my deepest sympathies.

Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
today I don't.


Ms P

"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...
> elaine wrote:
>>
>> "
>> >> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An
>> >> hour
>> >> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.
>>
>> She didn't linger which is a comfort. Still..........it's hard.
>
>
> She was 82. She had had one knee replaced. She had diabetes, a pacemaker,
> was on digitalis, diuretics, one kidney had pretty well failed,
> calcification of the bladder, a problem with a valve in her heart. She was
> not taking her diuretics because they made her run to the washroom every
> 15
> minutes. She had not had a good nights sleep in years because she had to
> get up and go to the can. She needed a walker to get around. She had
> diabetes related circulatory problems and was bound to have to have a foot
> or leg amputated in the not to distant future. She did not want that.
>
> My brothers have labelled me Dr.Death. When my father died 9 years ago the
> who family had taken their turn sitting by his side. After two full days
> of that, most had gone home for a rest leaving me and my mother alone. She
> went to the washroom and left me alone with him. He died before she got
> back. When I went in late Thursday might my brother joked to my wife not
> to leave me alone with her. She left when the nurse came in, leaving me
> as
> the only family member. Once again, leave me alone with a sick parent and
> they die on me. Several people have since asked me not to visit them in
> the hospital.

For what it's worth everyone should have a Dr. Death. When it's my time, I
would like to go fast - or faster. Unfortunately, I live each and every day
watching my loved one linger and suffer.

elaine

"Ms P" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
> ...
>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
>> that
>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>> trouble breathing.
>
>
> You have my deepest sympathies.
>
> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
> today I don't.
>
>
> Ms P

Accident?

elaine

"elaine" > wrote in message
...
>
> "Ms P" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
>>> that
>>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>>> trouble breathing.
>>
>>
>> You have my deepest sympathies.
>>
>> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
>> today I don't.
>>
>>
>> Ms P
>
> Accident?
>
> elaine

Sadly it was a drug overdose. He was only 25.


Ms P

Dave Smith wrote:
>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy
>> and raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had
>> a call that she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because
>> she was having trouble breathing.

My condolences

Debbie

--�

Debbie

(Email account is valid but one I do not check. To email use above
name dot neill at sympatico dot ca)

"Ms P" > wrote in message
...
>
> "elaine" > wrote in message
> ...
>>
>> "Ms P" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>>
>>> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy
>>>> and
>>>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
>>>> that
>>>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>>>> trouble breathing.
>>>
>>>
>>> You have my deepest sympathies.
>>>
>>> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a
>>> nephew, today I don't.
>>>
>>>
>>> Ms P
>>
>> Accident?
>>
>> elaine
>
> Sadly it was a drug overdose. He was only 25.

I'm so sorry.

elaine

Ms P wrote:
>> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold,
>>> windy and raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning
>>> I had a call that
>>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was
>>> having trouble breathing.
>>
>>
>> You have my deepest sympathies.
>>
>> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a
>> nephew, today I don't.
>>
>>

I am so sorry.

Debbie

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Debbie

(Email account is valid but one I do not check. To email use above
name dot neill at sympatico dot ca)

Dave Smith > wrote in message
...
[snip]
> Early Thursday morning [Mom] had a stroke. [..] later
> she slipped away quietly on my watch.
[snip]

I'm sorry for your loss. Condolences from Clan Ranger.

The Ranger

elaine > wrote:

>"Ms P" > wrote in message

...

>> "elaine" > wrote in message

>>> "Ms P" > wrote in message

>>>> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a
>>>> nephew, today I don't.


>>> Accident?

>>> elaine

>> Sadly it was a drug overdose. He was only 25.

>I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry too. That's very very sad.

Steve

I am so sorry for your loss. My sympathies to you and your family.

Koko
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One time on Usenet, Dave Smith > said:

> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
> trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in
> the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite confused. On
> Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal time to help her eat.
> Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My brothers and I took turns
> sitting with her. I went home in the late afternoon, not expecting to have
> to go back, but I returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour
> and a half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

<snip>

My heart goes out to you, Dave. I know how it feels to lose a mom.
Best wishes to you and your family...

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Jani in WA

I'm so sorry to hear it. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Dave Smith > wrote in
:

> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold,
> windy and raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday
> morning I had a call that she had been taken to the hospital
> by ambulance because she was having trouble breathing. She
> seemed to be in good spirits when we visited her in the ER and
> she was on oxygen. She was admitted to the progressive care
> unit. The next day I went to see her and she was quite
> confused. On Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal
> time to help her eat. Early Thursday morning she had a stroke.
> My brothers and I took turns sitting with her. I went home in
> the late afternoon, not expecting to have to go back, but I
> returned to the hospital just before midnight. An hour and a
> half later she slipped away quietly on my watch.

Sincere condolences.

On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 20:18:22 -0500, "Ms P" >
wrote:

>
>"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...
>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call
>> that
>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>> trouble breathing.
>
>
>You have my deepest sympathies.
>
>Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
>today I don't.
>
>
>Ms P


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On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 20:39:08 -0500, "Ms P" >
wrote:
>>>
>>> Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
>>> today I don't.
>>>
>>>
>>> Ms P
>>
>> Accident?
>>
>> elaine
>
>Sadly it was a drug overdose. He was only 25.
>
OMG.... that's awful. My sympathies to your sister/brother and (ex -
if that applies)spouse.

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Dave Smith wrote:
> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy
> and raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a
> call that she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she
> was having trouble breathing. She seemed to be in good spirits when
> we visited her in the ER and she was on oxygen. She was admitted to
> the progressive care unit. The next day I went to see her and she was
> quite confused. On Wednesday we were taking turns going in at meal
> time to help her eat. Early Thursday morning she had a stroke. My
> brothers and I took turns sitting with her. I went home in the late
> afternoon, not expecting to have to go back, but I returned to the
> hospital just before midnight. An hour and a half later she slipped
> away quietly on my watch.
>
> The timing is never good. One brother and SiL are leaving this week
> for a month long trip to England and Ireland. Another brother is in
> the process of moving. Ironically, after living a few hours drive
> away and retiring, he wanted to move closer to his mother. A nephew
> has just left for a three week vacation on the west coast.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for
> her in June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all
> there for the last four days of her life and we are comfortable
> postponing ceremonies for a month and a half, but our children are
> uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our
> house for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come
> up with a a good assortment of food to serve.

Oh, Dave, I am so very sorry. My sympathies to you and your family.

kili

"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...
> Wow.
>
> Cremation has taken place. We will be having a memorial service for her in
> June. It seems a long way off. My brothers and I were all there for the
> last four days of her life and we are comfortable postponing ceremonies
> for
> a month and a half, but our children are uncomfortable with it.
>
> We are arranging for the the church women to provide sandwiches and
> goodies. We will be having family and some close friends back to our
> house
> for a BBQ afterward. So we have from now to mid June to come up with a a
> good assortment of food to serve.

My condolances for your loss. My son lost his father last year and was with
him at the end.

Harriet & critters

Piggybacking:

On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 20:18:22 -0500, "Ms P" >
wrote:

> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...

>> Wow. How things can change in a week. Last Monday it was cold, windy and
>> raining, and a I still had a mother. last Monday morning I had a call that
>> she had been taken to the hospital by ambulance because she was having
>> trouble breathing.

>You have my deepest sympathies.

>Sometimes things change even faster than that. Yesterday I had a nephew,
>today I don't.

I'm sorry for your loss, as well as Dave's... :-(

--
Jani in WA

On Apr 24, 10:34 am, Dave Smith > wrote:
> elaine wrote:

> We will miss her. She raised four boys. She taught us all how to cook. She
> always told me that I was the best cook of the bunch. It may be true, but
> she probably said the same to the others. She was always fun to have over
> for dinner because she always had something positive to say, even if it had
> been a flop.

Sounds like a remarkable and wonderful lady Dave. You were blessed.
Remember the good times, and special things you shared... let the rest
go is my advice.
Even when they are gone they still live on... in their kids, grandkids
and so on...
and in the sweet and loved memories you have of happier times.

I'd like to think that your Dad and Mum were comforted by your
presence and were
at peace with themselves and their circumstance.. and thus their
ability to let go.
Perhaps they both felt you could handle the situation better than your
siblings and their
passing would be easier in your company. Who knows. Think positive
though.

You can visit me in hospital anytime! Just make sure you bring
delicious goodies!!!

LadyJane

Dave wrote:

>> Oh, I am so sorry. May we send flowers? Is there a favorite charity we
>> could donate to? Let me know.
>
> Thanks, but her wish was that rather than send flowers people should take
> their nearest and dearest out for a nice meal.


Sounds like she was a wonderful person, and the world is diminished by her
death. You have my sincere condolences. I will be sure to take my nearest
and dearest out for a nice meal at my first opportunity (which will be this
coming Sunday).

Bob