Omelet wrote:
> In article .com>,
> "-L." > wrote:
>
> > VegA wrote:
> > > Guests that inquire as to what will be served when invited for dinner.
> >
> > Are rude.
>
> Are close friends that know that I don't mind that sort of thing. :-)

Ok, for you and your friends it's ok, then, but it's not proper
etiquette in contemporary society and never will be. You don't ask
about or dictate a host's menu - it is just something that shouldn't be
done because it's rude. Your role as a guest is to accept or decline
the invitation politely.

For example, I was recenly served filet mignon eventhough I do not eat
beef. I ate what I could because I'm a polite guest. Had I been asked
before hand I would have stated that we eat no beef. But I wasn't
asked, so I had to suck it up and eat it, or not, as was my choice. I
ate some to be polite. Conversely I am hosting guests for
Thanksgiving that eat no meat. I know this and will accomodate them.
I asked for preferences and one guest doesn't like mushrooms. That's
fine - there are plenty of things I can make without using 'shrooms.
Had i not asked and people inquired about the menu, it would have been
rude. But as a host I am willing to accomodate preferences, so I
always ask or offer a menu.

>
> Lighten up already!

Has nothing to do with not being "light". It's having good manners as
a guest. In some circles it's acceptable to fart and belch at the
dinner table, as well. That doesn't mean that doing so is accepted in
society.

-L.