Goomba38 > wrote in message
. ..
> The Ranger wrote:
> > Fer example... I love crab. If crab juice (not even the main
> > source) touches my tongue, it's a pretty dramatic reaction. I
> > immediately bloat, wheeze, and get all blotchy. (And yes,
> > I now get the pleasure of carrying that little Pen about on
> > my person. It sucks to be me.)
> >
> > I find that this new feature I'm experiencing is something
> > that a host(ess) wants to know prior to their event. I
> > know I ask invitees so as not to witness that sort of
> > commentary about my cooking.
> >
> The difference being is that I'm sure you discretely mention
> your allergies to the hostess long before the event and her
> cooking, and not make a big public drama out of it while
> at the dinner. That is acceptable.

You're right; it's mostly my MO. There was the time I was served a
dessert with a raspberry puree that caught me completely by
surprise. I thought the stinging on my tongue was the booze (she
used that Greek Everclear as a base) but by the time we were ready
to head home for the evening, I was an angry-red and fully-mottled
hive. I stopped at the emergency clinic for some
prescription-strength Benadryl that night.

> Demanding to know the menu because you're unsophisticated
> and don't want to risk being served a piece of meat on the bone
> is not.

That is different; I've [luckily] only run these buffoons at
work-related luncheons and dinners.

If I'm playing host, I'll be first to ask the invitee about known
allergies and if the list gets too long, I'll ask which restaurant
they would like to meet at. None of my friends have such a lengthy
list but there was one at my previous place of employment that
pulled it (once.)

The Ranger