D.Currie wrote:

>
> It's a close relative, and they live less than 6 blocks away. And we're the
> only family within 900 miles.
>
> Donna

DONNA,
Next time, ask her if you can arrive early and help her prepare
the meal. Tell her you'd like to pick up some tips from her or
whatever. That way, you'll be OK with eating the meal because you
helped prepare it, or if you see something you don't like, you can
avoid it at the dinner table. If something is "pre made" ask her "OH,
how did you make this??" just to get the info.
It sounds like you trust them not to do something intentionally.
Right?