~patches~ > writes:

>Glitter Ninja wrote:

>> occasionally pretty hostile. And the regulars on rfc are like a family
>> (some would call it cliquish) and there's not a lot of room for newer
>> people. I just chalk it up to the culture.

>You know, today just really bugged me. Someone asked a legitimate
>question and was given the third degree!

I didn't see that particular thread, but I have seen it happen before,
so I know what you mean. But I know that other groups are like that,
too. Like a cat group I know -- there's always someone who jumps on
people who ask a legitimate question, telling them they should go to a
vet. Which is true, but they'll say it even if the poster HAS spoken
with a doctor. The poster just wants conversation or advice. What's a
newsgroup for if not discussion and questions?

>ignored so I figured why bother. I know some of the regs have me
>kfilled.

Believe me, it's preferable to them NOT kfing you. I've got a guy on
a movie group who hates me, and for ten years hasn't kfed me but keeps
following up to my posts. It's tiring.

>my posts. So I just did the same and figured oh well. But I don't care
>how you slice this ng it is cliquish. Period. And that is not
>flattering. Someone comes here and asks for advice then the clique
>kicks in and all hell breaks out and they don't like it when anyone says
>anything about it.

Again (and I sound like a broken record here) a lot of ngs are
cliquish. With less and less new people finding Usenet, it's going to
get worse, probably. I'm not saying it's right or good, I've just
gotten to where I don't fret about it anymore.

>that's the vibes I'm getting. I'm never going to fit in here and I'm
>not even going to pretend that I can.

Eh, I feel that way sometimes too, but screw it. I hope you don't
leave. Take a break if you have to (I have many times myself) but I'd
hate to see you leave.

Stacia