"Julia Altshuler" > wrote in message
news:jA5Zb.13960$4o.33970@attbi_s52...

> We know we want to appear generous and
> entertain in style, but we also know the guests will mostly be in their
> 70s and 80s, which would mean less food, less energetic dancing, little
> or no alcohol, earlier in the day rather than later. On the other hand,
> the guests might not want to be treated like old folks. They might want
> the appearance of youth and energy.

AAARGH! Depends on the "old folks"! My children gave me a 75th birthday
party, catered at my home. The guests were, for the most part, of
"retirement age" but the range was from 6 months to 84 years. It was the
best damned party I've ever had! Never underestimate us oldies, especially
when we're surrounded by youngies.

Recommendation: a good caterer, in their home if space permits. I'm sure
they would enjoy selecting their favorite foods and having all their friends
in their own familiar surroundings.

Felice