On Thu 28 Apr 2005 05:45:15p, Wayne Boatwright wrote in rec.food.cooking:
> On Thu 28 Apr 2005 04:39:34p, Ranee Mueller wrote in rec.food.cooking:
>
>> In article .com>,
>> "aem" > wrote:
>>
>>> I was expecting to get other people's stories of turning out something
>>> entertaining on short notice. Frankly, I'm surprised at the vehemence
>>> with which some say, "no way!" Every relationship is different, I
>>> suppose. -aem
>>
>> I'm with you. I'm in no way a doormat, but there are some things I
>> just figure you cope with occasionally. I don't think Rich has ever
>> forgotten to tell me that someone was coming to dinner, but then, I
>> wouldn't really keep track anyway. It wouldn't throw me that much, both
>> because if he forgot, I think I'm big enough to forgive him, and because
>> he would be home helping me tackle it, at least with some ideas if not
>> actual cooking labor. It seems to me a lot of people think that
>> someone's slip up is an indication that they disrespect the other. They
>> aren't necessarily equivalent, but I think that's what a lot of the
>> 50/50 arrangements in marriage produce, I do this, so you do that, and
>> you'd better not do this or I'll do that. We just do what needs to be
>> done and are both pretty appreciative of the other's work.
>>
>> Also, I think there are times that Rich comes home from work, maybe
>> thinking that he will have me and the kids to himself and a friend of
>> mine is there, doesn't faze him. We like our home to be a place people
>> can come to and we don't freak out about it too much, even if it isn't
>> as clean as we'd like.
>>
>> Regards,
>> Ranee
>
> Ranee, you and Rich seem to have a very equitable and understanding
> relationship with fairneww and tradeoffs. This is not what I sense from
Oops, should be.....fairness not fairneww
> the OP. What I would not appreciate are spur of the moment invitations
> which were not "forgotten" and essentially making my participation a
> command performance. ("Up for the challenge", my a$$. I will not be
> walked on.)
>
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Wayne Boatwright *¿*
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