"Lena B Katz" > wrote in message
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>>> Thanks, Dimitri. She wasn't actually raped. She seems to be OK, I'm
>>> starting to think I'm the one who needs help. As far as point #3, I'm
>>> not so sure. She is a committed Christian girl, high morals, can
>>> stretch a dollar farther than I've ever seen, is a Straight A student
>>> (well, except for Chemistry this year - I think she is reconsidering
>>> becoming a vet) and the biggest non-conformist I have ever known. I
>>> have never had the occasion to think she ever told me the smallest
>>> lie, because, believe it or not, that's just the way she is. She
>>> REALLY doesn't care what anyone thinks of her, or what she wears, or
>>> so on. By George, I guess she's my hero. I wish I could be just like
>>> her. Except, not a girl . . . anyway, you get the picture. By the
>>> way, she saved enough money from presents and baby-sitting over the
>>> years to buy herself a new Sunfire when she got her license. She
>>> wouldn't let us pay for hardly any of it, despite my protests.
>>
>> Be very careful here. If in fact something did happen and she and she is
>> too embarrassed to say so then the "you're my hero" will propagate the
>> burying of the truth. Only she and the attacker really know what
>> happened.
>> Even though she was not rapped being attacked is trauma enough - don't
>> trust
>> my judgment call a rape hot line and explain what happened . Trust
>> professionals that is what they do.
>
> finding someone to talk about it with is probably a good thing. ymmv about
> counselors.

1. Probably is a very bad choice of words.

find someone you trust, and preferably someone who's been
> through it themselves.

If you trust your trash collector - he can't do any good - find a reputable
professional who is equipped to deal with the subject.



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> lena
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