"TheAlligator" > wrote in message
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> "Dimitri" > wrote:
>>1. Any parent who has a daughter will understand your rage.
>>2. Make damn sure she sees a trusted or experienced rape counselor.
>>3. There are time when what is told to the parents ( for a variety of
>>reasons) is not always the truth as it really happened. See point # 2.
>>4. Maybe you should see someone as well just to take the edge off your
>>anger.
>>
>>Dimitri
>>
>>(Father of 4 girls)
>>
>>PS I seem to remember the statistic is 1 in 4 will experience some sort of
>>attack.
> Thanks, Dimitri. She wasn't actually raped. She seems to be OK, I'm
> starting to think I'm the one who needs help. As far as point #3, I'm
> not so sure. She is a committed Christian girl, high morals, can
> stretch a dollar farther than I've ever seen, is a Straight A student
> (well, except for Chemistry this year - I think she is reconsidering
> becoming a vet) and the biggest non-conformist I have ever known. I
> have never had the occasion to think she ever told me the smallest
> lie, because, believe it or not, that's just the way she is. She
> REALLY doesn't care what anyone thinks of her, or what she wears, or
> so on. By George, I guess she's my hero. I wish I could be just like
> her. Except, not a girl . . . anyway, you get the picture. By the
> way, she saved enough money from presents and baby-sitting over the
> years to buy herself a new Sunfire when she got her license. She
> wouldn't let us pay for hardly any of it, despite my protests.

Be very careful here. If in fact something did happen and she and she is
too embarrassed to say so then the "you're my hero" will propagate the
burying of the truth. Only she and the attacker really know what happened.
Even though she was not rapped being attacked is trauma enough - don't trust
my judgment call a rape hot line and explain what happened . Trust
professionals that is what they do.

Dimitri