PENMART01 wrote:

> >Damsel writes:
> >
> >>Dave Smith wrote:
> >
> >>You can always lie. I did my family duty and went to Christmas dinner at
my
> >>brother's because my mother's health is not good and this may be her
last
> >>Christmas. So I got to spend the evening with a clinically depressed
> >brother,
> >>his dullard wife and socially retarded 31 year old son. I am grateful
that
> >my
> >>wife came along and indulged my family. My other two brothers would not
go
> >>because they despise the host and hostess. I didn't want to hurt his
> >feelings.
> >>I had my son come down to join us. When my mother is no longer around
for
> >>Christmas I will be making excuses. It's a special time of year and I
> >really
> >>hate spending it with the depressed family when I could be having a
better
> >time
> >>with other family members, even in-laws.
>
> Before slashing at family take a good hard look in your own mirror... and
> slashing at your family doesn't make you whole. The entire concept of the
> holiday season is totally wasted on you.
>
>
> >Amen. Our family started to fall apart when my mom passed. Once Dad was
> >gone, the three of us kids have never spent a single holiday together.
It
> >really isn't any loss, because we have nothing in common except that we
> >were all born to the same couple. My brother is a hopeless alcoholic,
and
> >my sister is in denial about her schizophrenia and refuses to take her
> >meds. It would be a wonderful day, wouldn't it?
> >
> >I do miss being with family for the holidays, but I don't miss the people
> >I'd be stuck with if we did it now. There is someone in RFC who has
agreed
> >to let us adopt her for the holidays. It'll cut way back on the
loneliness
> >for all three of us, and she's a much better cook than I am. <G>
> >
> >There are always ways to work around lousy relationships, but I agree
that
> >you're doing the right thing by spending the holidays with your mother.
> >You'd really regret it if you didn't.
> >
> >Little Orphan Carol
> >--
> >"Years ago my mother used to say to me... She'd say,
> >'In this world Elwood, you must be oh-so smart or oh-so pleasant.'
> >Well, for years I was smart.... I recommend pleasant. You may quote me."
>
> Pleasant... hmmm...
>
> My mother always said if you haven't anything good to say about the people
you
> break bread with then keep your [****ing] trap shut or eat alone.
>


Yup...couldn't agree more. If people are talking out of turn like this
about such private matters on some dumb Usenet group then how must they act
in *real life*...???

It's simply a cheap attention - getting device, nothing more. It gets real
old reeeeeeal fast.

Such folks should get off Usenet and seek some kind of professional help.

--
Best
Greg