"Alex Chaihorsky" > wrote in message
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> "Tea" > wrote in message
> ...
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> > HAH! I say- HAH!
> >
> > If you want a woman with a face like an angel and a nature that is
> > passionate and roiling, African-Americans are the best. We are
> > dependable,
> > loving and kind, and we can usually cook up a storm. The men who love
us
> > may gain a few extra pounds, but they'll be well fed and happy. Of
course,
> > I
> > wouldn't advise annoying us- objects have been known to move at light
> > speed
> > on occasion. Also, titanium razor blades have been known to be dull next
> > to
> > our tongues- there's no need for circumcision before meeting us, because
> > there's a good chance you'll lose some of your foreskin over time
anyway.
> > Some of it will get worn away from all the hard use anyhow, which will
> > also
> > help you wear off the pounds from our cooking.
> >>
>
> Majority of us, white guys unfortunately never had a chance to experience
a
> black lady companionship in normal circumstances, because even when it
> happens, the scene is so overloaded with cultural, racial and behavioral
> obstacles that minefield walking on Kosovo-Serbian border feels safer.
> In addition to that, the black community does not look favorably on this
and
> it never tries to hide that. Whites honestly want to look like they are
all
> for it, but the negativity shines through, however the effort to hide it
> (both from themselves and from the couple). Knowing that, TV networks
never
> show anything that would be seen as a mixed-race romancing, and there is
> more realty in these "family" shows that in all "reality" shows taken
> together. What a hypocrisy.
>
> Sashay.

Actually, ER had a mixed-race plotline for quite a bit, between two
principal characters. Buffy the Vampire Slayer had Giles matter of factly
dating a black woman, and Angel had Fred (a white woman) being shown
interest by Gunn (a black guy).

It depends on where you are from. In the South, while mixed race dating can
be fraught, it's not the big deal it used to be for most people. My mom
loved my husband (she wished he was black, but moms tend to be like that)
and likes my new boyfriend, who is Scots-Irish. She also liked quite a few
of the white guys I dated better than the black ones because they were more
compatible with me.

While I have had black people get really ****ed at me on the street and
other places for dating white guys, I've seen many more black-white pairings
on the streets lately than when I was younger. And on tv, talk shows often
have black/white pairings that are as dysfunctional as non-mixed ones.

Never having given two figs what some anomalous black community thinks (and
at least one Supreme Court Justice and a former head of the Joint Chiefs of
Staff seem to agree with me, to no ill effects), I've never concerned myself
with that. My favorite story is about the time my Jewish husband and I went
to see my relatives- I was afraid that they would ask him stupid questions
about Cha-noo-kuh. Instead, they were nice and ignored us the way the
pretty much ignore everybody. In other words, he was accepted. On the
other side, he was afraid to tell his mother I was black, even though she
was an old lefty. When he finally showed her a picture of me, she was
happy- she was afraid I was some Irish Catholic and would try to convert
him! In her mind, a black woman was almost as good as being part of the
'tribe', as it were.

You have to understand- people in my family range in color from cream to
bitter chocolate. Black-white dating is in my experience (and in the
experience of all of my black girlfriends, who have all dated white or
non-American men) more fraught for white people than it is for many of us.
We know more about 'white culture' than vice versa. I've found that the more
assimilated blacks and whites are to each other, the more likely they are to
date interracially. In other words, most black people in poverty areas of
NY wouldn't, but a certain number of college and prep-school educated ones
might. My husband and I, for instance, bot loved jazz and the blues, and he
introduced me to early R&B; his parents and my parents both had been
involved in the Civil Rights movement, and he and I had both gone to schools
for the gifted. I'd also grown up ina Jewish neighborhood, and he'd gone to
camp with Paul Robeson, Jr. Culturally we were perfect for each other. As
for the BF, he's a former military brat- to him, everyone is equally alien.
He was a 'minority' in his home town because he spoke with a Devon accent as
a child, and because he didn't think black people were different from anyone
else. He's been dating non-white women since the age of 18, and never had a
problem with his family.

With many white people, it's all about desire and shame. Shame in that
they've already 'mixed' with us (how did we get to be so many colors
anyway?) and desire (for instance, Italian-American men whose bloodlines are
from Sicily and lower Italy will often make it clear they are interested in
me- and I see more and more ads from Italian-American men who actually want
to date and marry black women). Black people feel desire and shame also,
because of slavery. This may be why most of my friends usually date
Europeans or ex-military guys or Jewish guys rather than home-grown American
white guys- there tends to be less baggage.

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