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Cindy Hamilton[_2_]

On Tuesday, April 27, 2021 at 5:27:16 PM UTC-4, wrote:
> On Tuesday, April 27, 2021 at 4:16:12 PM UTC-5, Dave Smith wrote:
> >
> > On 2021-04-27 2:34 p.m., wrote:
> >
> > > On Tuesday, April 27, 2021 at 9:42:20 AM UTC-5, Boron Elgar wrote:
> > >>
> > >> I had an
> > >> established name/reputation in my career and I saw no reason to change
> > >> my "branding," as it were.
> > >>
> > >> My then
> > >> MIL asked me why I had gotten married if I didn't want to change my
> > >> name. I found the question rather perplexing on several levels.
> > >>
> > > That's sounds like your mother-in-law thought the only reason to get
> > > married was to obtain a new name.
> > >
> > It doesn't sound like that to me. The MiL is of an earlier generation,
> > one in which women were expected to submit to their husbands and taking
> > the husband's name was part of that. I expect that my son's fiancee
> > will keep her maiden name, the one that is on her multiple degrees and
> > attached to the dozens of research papers she has had published.
> >
> That is true about taking the husband's name and submitting, and he's the
> lord and master and fount of all wisdom, but it still smacks of getting
> married to just get a new name.

When I married the first time, I didn't change my name. I preferred my
name to his. And it was a point of "feminism". When I married the
second time, I changed my name; I preferred his name to mine.

I took a fair amount of crap for not changing my name, way back in
1979.

Cindy Hamilton