On Tue, 27 Apr 2021 08:45:12 -0400, Boron Elgar wrote:
> On Mon, 26 Apr 2021 21:08:28 -0400, jmcquown >
> wrote:
>
>>On 4/26/2021 9:08 AM, Boron Elgar wrote:
>>> On Sun, 25 Apr 2021 19:35:14 -0400, jmcquown >
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> On 4/25/2021 4:20 PM, Boron Elgar wrote:
>>>>> On Sun, 25 Apr 2021 14:22:50 -0400, Ed Pawlowski > wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> On 4/25/2021 1:20 PM, dsi1 wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> My late dentist use to have a 2003 Infinity G35 coupe. Hoo boy, what a looker that car is! He told me he was going to give it to his son when he got his driver's licence. That made me sad. Giving a kid that car is just asking for trouble. In fact, that car is too good for any kid. He must have made good on that because I'd see him driving some ratty sedan. That's just depressing! It's probably what killed him.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92FJLlCjBec
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Giving a kid a car is foolish no matter what it is. They appreciate
>>>>>> having it and will care for it more if they paid for it.
>>>>>
>>>>> I hope all recipients take this to heart if a fiance buys an
>>>>> engagement ring...
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>> What?! An engagement ring is "a gift given in contemplation of
>>>> marriage". In most states, if the marriage doesn't take place it isn't
>>>> considered a gift and the ring should be returned. Not so with a parent
>>>> gifting their child a car. Especially not if they co-sign a loan for
>>>> said car... the parents will be stuck if the child defaults on the loan.
>>>>
>>>> Jill
>>>
>>> There are fewer legal constraints on an engagement ring than on a car
>>> purchase
>>>
>>Of course there are. But if someone buys a stupidly expensive
>>engagement ring and the couple breaks up, it's not the same as an adult
>>child defaulting on a co-signed car loan.
>>
>>Jill
>
> No all engagement rings are paid for solely by one member of the
> couple. Anecdotal, surely, but among those I know, I can think of half
> a dozen instances. Times change, but I paid for half of mine way back
> in 1976. I wasn't too fond of my fiance paying any of it, actually.
> Other gifts were exchanged between us at times as we were together for
> a couple of years, but that ring, symbol of what I felt was a shared
> and equal relationship, was something I wanted to take part in, too. I
> did not change my last name at the marriage, either.
>
As was the custom then, my ex took my name on marriage and, since we were
both in the same field, it caused some confusion when she published a
paper. At conferences/conventions, there were instances where other
delegates took me for the author.