On Thu, 1 Apr 2021 19:16:43 -0400, Ed Pawlowski > wrote:

>On 4/1/2021 6:25 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>> On 2021-04-01 6:20 p.m., Graham wrote:
>>> On 2021-04-01 1:32 p.m., Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>> She made a good choice in the end.
>>>>
>>>> I told my kids that if I ever re-marry their new step mom will at
>>>> least be as old as my youngest granddaughter.
>>>>
>>>> My two best friends, one divorced, one a widow, have one trait we all
>>>> have in common.* Don't want to marry again.
>>>
>>> I know 3 widows who feel the same way. They all had had to cope with
>>> their husbands terminal illnesses.
>>
>> If they are women of you generation they probably don't need to remarry.
>> They got the estate and the pension. They are set.
>
>That can help but in my case, hooking up with my best friend would be
>marrying up for sure.
>
>We were friends for decades when our spouses were still with us and her
>and I often did things together. Amazing the assumptions people make
>when a man and woman do something together. We are 1200 miles apart but
>I do see her for a week or so a few times a year.

Seeing each other for a week or so a few times a year can be a lot of
time together.
Seems like you're trying to make that relationship seem very innocent
but I don't believe that, not for a second. A man and a women can't
be just friends for decades.