dsi1 wrote:
> For doctors, it's probably a relief not to tell someone that
> they're going to die or have to give them bad news.
> My Chinese friend kept the news that his dad's cancer was terminal from him.
> That's the Chinese way.

And that's a very wrong thing to do, imo. VERY WRONG!
If I knew I was going to die soon, I'd probably spend my last days doing
something different.

I had a friend once, got a radical cancer operation (hole in throat to
breath). He lived a few more years with that crap and eventually the
cancer came back and he was going to die.

Doctor and his wife told him that all was fine. I didn't like the lies
but it wasn't my place to tell him so I didn't. I went to visit him a
couple of days before he went back for his final hospital stay.

We talked about all things. He told me his past few years was nothing
but a nightmare and not worth those extra years. I didn't know what to
say to him but I did realize that even being lied to about "doing fine,"
he knew he was dying.

I'm sure he felt it...that he was getting worse, not better.

He went back into the hospital a few days later and died 2 days later.