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In article >,
(-L.

wrote:

> Melba's Jammin' > wrote in message
> >...
> > In article >,
> > (-L. wrote:
> > (snip)
> > > The weirdest TOT we experienced was in San Jose from '00 - '02 - over
> > > 300 people - and I say people because we got 16 & 17 year-olds,
> > > adults, etc.

> > Make it fun. Chat 'em up. Work up a current events or civics quiz for
> > them to pass before getting the candy.
>
> Yeah, right. TOT is for kids - not greedy adults. Some people
> don't seem to understand this.

I surely do agree about greedy adults. I think I'd tell them that I
didn't plan treats for adults (although about three years ago I did give
the parents a jar of jam) and was saving it for the kids, and ask them
to introduce themselves and shake hands and all.

I don't consider teenagers to be adults though and am willing to have
some fun with them. So make it a teachable moment. If your objective
is to have a fun Halloween, I think you have to go with the flow, even
if it grates. I don't especially like to see teens out begging candy
but it doesn't look like I'm going to change them. So I adapt. I make
THAT part of Halloween something that I DO enjoy. I'm good at chatting
them up and making it fun. And when they leave my house, they've at
least heard who our US Senators are, who's running for President, who
Howard Dean is, and who the mayor of our community is.

> I highly doubt most of these people know what the word "civics"
> means.

So educate them. Here's a short definition: :civ·ics n
the study of the rights and duties of citizens (takes a singular verb)"

(snip)
> > Any more ridiculous than taking an infant Trick or Treating?

> If your comment was directed at me because I said I finally have a
> child to dress for Halloween, that was pretty shitty.

I regret that you were offended.
You didn't say you "finally have a child to dress for Halloween," L.
The subject line of this thread is Trick or Treat. Here's what
followed your sig: "(Who has her own little goblin for the first time
:*) - he will be going as Super Baby)" I interpreted that to mean
you'd have him out for Tricks or Treats.

> We struggled with infertility and suffered malpractice during the
> process - I waited a long time for him (4 years) and received him
> through the gift of adoption. And you can bet your sweet ass I will
> dress him up for Halloween - it's a big deal for us. Not that I owe
> you an explanation, but for the record, he's not going TOTing for
> Halloween. He's attending a neighbor's Halloween party to raise money
> for Unicef.

> -L.

I can only imagine the heartache of your situation and all that it
entailed--I'm sorry you had to endure all that. And I'm delighted and
thrilled for you, yours, the little muffin, and all the adoring
relatives who I'm sure have welcomed him into the fold. God bless you
all. My daughter has a calendar on her wall and the one for the year
2002 has all kinds of jotted remarks throughout on the various dates
that my Blue Ribbon Granddaughter learned a new trick. :-) And the
one for 2003 has jots about words and phrases: "Daddy no'ed me!" when
she ran to her mom after her daddy had told her "no" about something.
That's probably my favorite. Unless, of course, when it's reported to
me that she wakes up and says, "I want Baba come my house. Now." "-)

Have a good life with your little one, L. They DO grow up too fast.
And enjoy your Halloween party with him, too. I'm sure he'll charm the
socks off everyone. If you don't have a camcorder and a digital
camera, get one of each. The digicam is great for sharing pix (and
there are a number of inexpensive websites that will let you post them
<access can be controlled by password> so you don't have to mail big
files to friends and fam. And the camcorder makes for great home
movies. The BRG loves to watch videos of herself when she was a baby.
Go figure.
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