On Sunday, August 30, 2020 at 7:53:23 PM UTC-5, U.S. Janet B. wrote:
>
> >If you have to ask...
> I apologize, it just occurred to me that you really didn't understand
> that people (particularly women) will say something about themselves
> that they don't want to hear coming out of someone else's mouth.
> Often they will say something about themselves to take the sting out
> of what someone could say about them.
> It's like that old joke 'Dear, does this dress make me look fat?'

The best answer is, "I think it's more likely that those third helpings of mashed potatoes are what makes you look fat."
>
> Janet US

--Bryan