Mike Duffy wrote:

> On Fri, 19 Jun 2020 02:42:16 -0700, Cindy Hamilton wrote:
>
> > I didn't marry a useless imbecile.
>
> I agree. Both partners should notice things like lawns needing a
> trim, or bathrooms needing a dusting.
>
> The only 'chore' I have around the house is the dishes. This was
> arrived- at by consensus after the installation of the current
> dishwasher, which only lights the 'finished' LED for a few minutes
> after a cycle. (The prior dishwasher left it 'on' until the next door
> open.)
>
>
> Otherwise, there is a risk of considering unclean dishes as ready to
> go in the cupboard, as well as uselessly washing clean dishes. The
> work- around is to have one person in charge.

Don and I worked out a sort of pattern before we even married (we lived
together for a year to make sure we matched). It was based on an old
roomate trick.

Make a list on one side of a piece of paper of everything you really
hate to have to do. Now draw a line amd make a list of what you do not
mind so much.

Don truely hates cleaning bathrooms so any major cleaning that is mine.
I really hate laundry so he takes care of that.

He hates grocery shopping so I took care of it for ages but now with
health issues and me needing help, he kinda likes it as he has more say
in what we get.

I don't mind cleaning cat pans or refilling fish tanks (and cleaning
said tanks) so I do most of that. Either one of us will dump the trash
and refill the liners but he cuts the grass.

I do all the finances including taxes. I also arrange all major
perchases (showing him the item such as replacement washing machine
etc.)

It works for us.