On 2018-12-09 12:49 PM, jmcquown wrote:
> On 12/9/2018 10:51 AM, Dave Smith wrote:

>>> I can't say I've ever experienced "tip soliciting behaviour".Â* What
>>> does that even mean?Â* Being obsequious?Â* Nope, I can't say I've
>>> encountered that.
>>
>>
>> Are you kidding.Â* It is no secret. Psychology today even wrote an
>> article about it.
>
> Uh... I don't actually care what Psychology Today has to say about it.
> I'm basing this on my own experience.

It is a reputable periodical and there was research that led them to
these findings.


>
>> They noted that women who wear something in their hair get more tips
>> from men and women than those who do not.
>
> So... I'm supposed to think because someone wears a barrette or a flower
> ornament in their hair they're schemeing to get more tips?Â* How about
> they're just keeping it pinned up out of the way?

Hell no. You aren't supposed to think that. It would give away the
tricks of the trade.


>
>> Waitress who gently touch their customers on the shoulder, arm or hand
>> get larger tips. The customers who are touched tend to buy more
>> drinks, offering more opportunities for tips.
>
> I've never ever had a server touch me.

You haven't. I sure have.


>
>> Introducing themselves by name gets bigger tips.
>
> That's company policy.Â* They usually wear name tags, too.

Yes, and it gives them some sort of relationship with the customer .....
so they will be more likely to tip more.
>
>> They suggest setting up reciprocity.Â* They do things like writing a
>> little note on the bill.
>
> I've never gotten little notes on my restaurant bills.Â* Even if I did it
> wouldn't induce me to tip more.


Really????? You never got a bill with a hand written Thanks or Have A
Nice Day with the server's name and a happy face???? I have to go by
my experience, because I have seen it a lot.



Psychology Today is not the only source on tips for getting tips. There
are lots of them. Even Forbes has suggestions that include wearing make
up, standing close to customers, touching customers, squatting at the
table, smiling, complimenting their food selections,writing Thank You on
the cheques and drawing little pictures.


https://www.forbes.com/sites/laurash.../#2c6d7bc7d02b


>
>> If the food is late they tell you the chef didn't think it was up to
>> his standards so he did it over again. They have done you a
>> favour....so pay up.Â* They repeat the orders, leading to a sense of
>> sameness, which will prompt you to tip more.Â* At the bottom of their
>> list is offering good service.
>>
> Apparently we have dined in very different places.

It would seem more like different worlds When I get the routine about
the product not being good enough I assume it is BS. If I get the story
about the fish not being fresh enough for the chef's standards I
automatically translate that to them having got a deal on it because it
was old and it had got so bad they can't even try to foist it on a diner.