On 2018-05-17 3:32 PM, Cheri wrote:

>> Is that not harder on the families?Â* Does it not help the victim not
>> to know
>> what is happening?
>
> I think long drawn out things like Alzheimer's are much harder than
> sudden deaths, though both are hard on the families. I prefer sudden.

Some ailments take a long time to kill people, sometimes painfully. It
is a rude surprise when someone suddenly kicks the bucket, like my
brother in law. He was standing by his dining room table talking to his
lady friend when he suddenly dropped deal, or like my childhood friend
who apparently died in the midst of an orgasm. It is a shock to friends
and family. Then there are the cases where people linger for days,
weeks, months or even years, sometimes totally confused and sometimes in
great pain. In these cases, survivors often feel relief. I don't think
that it is selfish of someone to be relieved that a loved one with a
degenerative and terminal condition has died. IMO, it is much more
selfish to try to keep them alive and suffering because others are
afraid of losing them.