On 2018-01-09 12:02 PM, Casa estilo antiguo wrote:
> On 1/9/2018 11:44 AM, Taxed and Spent wrote:
>> On 1/9/2018 10:30 AM, Casa estilo antiguo wrote:
>>> On 1/9/2018 11:28 AM, wrote:
>>>> https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifes...=.57759b6bf855
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Dear Miss Manners €¢ When my husband and I go out to dinner with
>>>> another couple, he thinks its petty either to request separate
>>>> checks or to calculate afterward how much each couple owes. He
>>>> believes the check should always be divided equally, and this is
>>>> what we do with most friends.
>>>>
>>>> The difference in price between what each couple orders is usually
>>>> only $10 to $20, meaning that the couple who spent less only
>>>> contributes $5 to $10 for the other couples food.
>>>>
>>>> However, we are friends with one other couple who has always
>>>> declined to pay for more than they ordered (for the record, my
>>>> husband and I have always been the ones to order more), and my
>>>> husband has always grumbled afterward to me about €œTonys€� stinginess.
>>>>
>>>> Last night we had dinner with them, and my husband and I ordered $40
>>>> more worth of food and drinks than Tony and his wife. When Tony
>>>> calculated how much they owed, my husband got angry and confronted
>>>> him, saying that these calculations had always annoyed him, arguing
>>>> that paying a little extra is the cost of going out with friends.
>>>>
>>>> I dont think friends are obligated to subsidize my husbands and my
>>>> appetizers, wine, dessert, etc., especially not when its $40 worth.
>>>> Also, I think its okay to request separate checks.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Gentle Reader €¢ This problem is likely to solve itself when you find
>>>> that you are the only person left willing to go out for dinner with
>>>> your husband.
>>>>
>>>> Funny how his idea of polite sharing always seems to work in his
>>>> favor. Miss Manners notices that he is not paying that €œlittle extra
>>>> cost of going out with friends"; he is charging them for the
>>>> privilege of going out with him.
>>>>
>>>> It is true that it would be petty to grudge the cost of offering
>>>> hospitality. But this is not the case in a restaurant, where it is
>>>> agreed that each of you is buying a meal. There is nothing
>>>> unfriendly about requesting separate checks, which would be a good
>>>> idea if you want to have any friends left.
>>>>
>>>> (end)
>>>>
>>>> Some people! I wouldn't expect anyone other than a crass teenager to
>>>> get mad.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Lenona.
>>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> Huh?
>>>
>>> For a regularly repeating $40 split meal subsidy?
>>>
>>> Wow.
>>>
>>
>> must be a progressive.
>
> <VBG>
:-) Everyone who disagrees with T&S is progressive!:-)