"Cheri" > wrote in message
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>> I have seen just that so many times, it would almost be safe to say,
>> it's the rule. My maternal eldest aunt was cared for by the youngest
>> when the time came, you watch 13 other siblings find reasons they
>> couldn't help. They were round pdq though when death occurred.
>
> I'm reminded of when I worked at the satellite school, I was talking to a
> man from Mexico and he said the one thing that he's seen a lot of in the
> USA is the number of rest homes where people place their parents, where in
> Mexico it is an honor to have the old people living with you and people do
> it willingly. Granted, I don't know if that's true, but it's certainly
> true here. As a comedian once said, "watch out for the kids, they want the
> house." LOL
>
> Cheri

One problem I have seen is when the older person reaches the point of
needing continual care. Can't even make a trip to the grocery store for
yourself because something could happen to them when you leave. Another
problem is that the older person can because combative to family members.
One I am thinking of professed to be able to do nothing for herself but if
she didn't get her own way, she could do some damage to the other person
with her fists. Or the house itself just won't work. For instance, a bathtub
that you can't get the person in and out of or stairs. And in some cases
there isn't the means or the space to modify the place so it will work.
Sometimes the nursing home is the only choice.