On Sun, 23 Jul 2017 13:55:35 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>In article >, says...
>>
>> jmcquown wrote:
>> > I was already living here when I inherited the house. Taking care of
>> > my mother. Cooking, cleaning, shopping for groceries. Making sure
>> > she got medical care.
>>
>> Am I hearing a violin playing in the background? ;-D
>
> No, you bloody well are not. Those of us who posted here during those
>very tough years for Jill, know what a physical and emotional struggle
>it was.
>
> Raising a child YOU CHOSE to have, who is not mentally or physically
>impaired, who spends hours every day at school, who has her own friends
>and social life and is steadily approaching physical and emotional
>independence, is pretty much the exact opposite of last-years care for
>old people whose physical, mental and emotional needs become steadily
>MORE demanding and exhausting for the carer.
>
> As you'd know, if you'd gone home to care for your old parents.
>
> Janet UK
No big deal - my father died very suddenly in Spain and I had to rush
over, get the house sold, stuff packed up and bring my mother back
with me. She lived with us and three kids until she died and I looked
after her while I still worked. Ultimately I had to quit working
because for a couple of the last years she could not be left on her
own.
Franco still ruled Spain back then and I had endless visits from the
Guardia Civil who seemed to suspect a plot of some sort. Only Spanish
friends got me through that. I left my mother in a hotel in London
while I went to Air Canada in Regent St. to pick up a ticket for her
and on the way back became frantic when stuck in the tube for two
hours at Oxford Circus because of an IRA bomb scare.
So don't lecture about taking care of parents - just because people
don't play the poor me card. You don't know what Gary has maybe had
to face in the past, not everybody seeks attention by broadcasting it.