On Sat, 6 Feb 2016 03:40:52 -0800 (PST), Cindy Hamilton
> wrote:

>On Friday, February 5, 2016 at 4:45:31 PM UTC-5, Jeßus wrote:
>> On Sat, 06 Feb 2016 08:37:56 +1100, Bruce > wrote:
>>
>>
>> >That's it. Obey and disobey aren't applicable because there are no
>> >orders.
>>
>> Obey and disobey, I just can't imagine thinking in those terms when it
>> comes to a relationship.
>
>If my husband says "Hand me that 2 by 4", isn't that an order?
>If I hand it to him, isn't that obedience?
>
>Would saying "Please" make it other than an order?

Technically, yes, or at least I agree it can be interpreted that way.
It's just not how I would personally view at that scenario though. I
would regard it as helping or cooperating with each other.

You could say the same about ordering a hamburger, I suppose...