On Mon, 1 Feb 2016 15:16:09 -0500, Ed Pawlowski > wrote:

>On 2/1/2016 2:53 PM, wrote:
>> Interesting!
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>> https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine...1qJ/story.html
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>> Why do waitstaff feel it is appropriate to bring extra spoons when not everyone at a table orders dessert? Maybe the person ordering dessert doesn’t want others sticking spoons in her dessert. Am I the only person who thinks this is wrong? I have never seen anyone get extra forks when ordering a salad.
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>> D.A. / Maynard
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>> That’s because no restaurant diner has ever said, “Oh em gee, that kale looks amazing. I’ve simply got to try a bite.”
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>> Servers don’t do anything for the express purposes of annoying their customers; they do what they have found works for most of the people most of the time. Bringing extra spoons with a dessert saves waitstaff the inevitable trips back. Don’t blame the servers: Blame our whole ridiculous culture around food, morality, and body size. If diners weren’t neurotic and jittery about dessert, servers wouldn’t have to play these games.
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>> Do your part to create a saner food culture by calmly asserting your right to and desire for your entire slice of cake. When your dessert and extra spoons are brought to your table, say, “I’m planning to finish this myself. It looks great?—?does anyone else want to order something for themselves before the server leaves?”
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>> Lenona.
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>Wife and I often share a dessert. After a good meal with good portions
>we don't always want a big glob of sweets, but sharing can be just enough.
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>We have on occasion shared a salad but there are already forks on the
>table for that. I like it when they bring an extra spoorn/fork for
>dessert if we order just one.

My husband and I have gotten into the habit of sharing the whole meal.
Appetizer, main, and dessert. We find that half a restaurant dinner is
the perfect amount.

We tell the wait staff when we order that we want to share, and they
are great about either bringing an extra plate or having the food
served on two separate plates. Never had any problems doing this.

Doris