"jmcquown" > wrote in message
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> On 7/6/2015 12:12 PM, jinx the minx wrote:
>> Janet B > wrote:
>>> On Sat, 4 Jul 2015 20:26:36 -0700, "Julie Bove"
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>> snip
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Why were you trying to help me here? I didn't ask for help.
>>>>>
>>>>> And yet it seems everyone interpreted it that way, like so many times
>>>>> before. So they're all wrong, are they? Read what you wrote again.
>>>>>
>>>
>>> snip
>>>
>>> The question is implied. It's a statement that leads the listener to
>>> believe that an answer should be given. ( This is an unfortunate
>>> habit of speech that you have.) You may not think you are asking for
>>> help, but you are. You need to change the way you express yourself.
>>> You said " I wish there was a sweetener I could use. So far I
>>> haven't found
>>> one. " The implied question is, does anyone know of a sweetener that
>>> I could use. Watch your sentence construction and you won't be
>>> bothered by unwanted help.
>>> Janet US
>>
>> It's the equivalent of overhearing someone standing in the canned goods
>> aisle at the store say "I wish I could find the bread". It's human
>> nature
>> to be helpful and tell that person it's two aisles over, but Julie would
>> think that was rude the person was eavesdropping on a private comment
>> apparently meant only for herself.
>>
> jinx, that's an excellent example! I once saw an older gent searching for
> something the spice/seasonings aisle. The man didn't ask for my help but
> he was *obviously* having a difficult time finding something. Turned out
> his wife had sent him to the store for Pumpkin Pie Spice. He sure as hell
> didn't think it was rude for me to help him find it. In fact, the man
> said, "Thank you!" Imagine that.
>
> She could just ignore the posts where we unwitting people try to be
> helpful but she can't seem to stop herself.

And they can't seem to stop themselves when no help was asked for.