On 7/6/2015 12:12 PM, jinx the minx wrote:
> Janet B > wrote:
>> On Sat, 4 Jul 2015 20:26:36 -0700, "Julie Bove"
>> > wrote:
>>
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>>>>>
>>>>> Why were you trying to help me here? I didn't ask for help.
>>>>
>>>> And yet it seems everyone interpreted it that way, like so many times
>>>> before. So they're all wrong, are they? Read what you wrote again.
>>>>
>>
>> snip
>>
>> The question is implied. It's a statement that leads the listener to
>> believe that an answer should be given. ( This is an unfortunate
>> habit of speech that you have.) You may not think you are asking for
>> help, but you are. You need to change the way you express yourself.
>> You said " I wish there was a sweetener I could use. So far I
>> haven't found
>> one. " The implied question is, does anyone know of a sweetener that
>> I could use. Watch your sentence construction and you won't be
>> bothered by unwanted help.
>> Janet US
>
> It's the equivalent of overhearing someone standing in the canned goods
> aisle at the store say "I wish I could find the bread". It's human nature
> to be helpful and tell that person it's two aisles over, but Julie would
> think that was rude the person was eavesdropping on a private comment
> apparently meant only for herself.
>
jinx, that's an excellent example! I once saw an older gent searching
for something the spice/seasonings aisle. The man didn't ask for my
help but he was *obviously* having a difficult time finding something.
Turned out his wife had sent him to the store for Pumpkin Pie Spice. He
sure as hell didn't think it was rude for me to help him find it. In
fact, the man said, "Thank you!" Imagine that.

She could just ignore the posts where we unwitting people try to be
helpful but she can't seem to stop herself.

Jill