Janet B > wrote:
> On Sat, 4 Jul 2015 20:26:36 -0700, "Julie Bove"
> > wrote:
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>>>> Why were you trying to help me here? I didn't ask for help.
>>>
>>> And yet it seems everyone interpreted it that way, like so many times
>>> before. So they're all wrong, are they? Read what you wrote again.
>>>
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> The question is implied. It's a statement that leads the listener to
> believe that an answer should be given. ( This is an unfortunate
> habit of speech that you have.) You may not think you are asking for
> help, but you are. You need to change the way you express yourself.
> You said " I wish there was a sweetener I could use. So far I
> haven't found
> one. " The implied question is, does anyone know of a sweetener that
> I could use. Watch your sentence construction and you won't be
> bothered by unwanted help.
> Janet US

It's the equivalent of overhearing someone standing in the canned goods
aisle at the store say "I wish I could find the bread". It's human nature
to be helpful and tell that person it's two aisles over, but Julie would
think that was rude the person was eavesdropping on a private comment
apparently meant only for herself.
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