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jmcquown[_2_]

On 12/7/2013 12:33 AM, gtr wrote:
> On 2013-12-07 04:43:38 +0000, said:
>
>> On Fri, 6 Dec 2013 15:20:19 -0700, "graham" > wrote:
>>
>>>
>>> > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>>> On Fri, 6 Dec 2013 09:52:55 -0000, "Ophelia"
>>>> > wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> "Gary" > wrote in message
>>>>> ...
>>>>>> Ophelia wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> "Cindy Hamilton" wrote:
>>>>>>>> I've often said I will never remarry, because I could never find
>>>>>>>> another one like him.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Exactly the same for me with mine )))
>>>>>>
>>>>>> And then there's me. Divorced for about 25 years now. I never
>>>>>> remarried because I was afraid that I *would* find another just like
>>>>>> her. heheh
>>>>>
>>>>> Aww I am so sorry.
>>>>
>>>> Don't be. some people do very well on their own. I was happily
>>>> married 43 years but don't think I would have adjusted readily again
>>>> and know I certainly would not now. There are days when I am happy
>>>> that I can do exactly what I want. I also know some women who are
>>>> coping now at this stage with ailing husbands and doubt that I could
>>>> have given the care now, that I gave then. It would be too physically
>>>> demanding.
>>>>
>>>> Several years after David died I did get quite close to someone but a)
>>>> my cat bit him and b) he dropped - and left - a wet towel on the
>>>> bedroom carpet and warning flags were waving - that was the end of
>>>> that! So now I usually make sure the ground rules are clear at the
>>>> outset because a lot of widowers seem to be looking for housekeepers
>>>> and cleaners and I am not applying for those positions
>>>
>>> By the same token, a lot of women are looking for *younger* men! They
>>> don't
>>> want to look after someone but they sure as hell want to *be* looked
>>> after
>>> and the trouble is, they don't seem to be aware of the double standard!
>>> Graham
>>>
>> Maybe but younger men often appreciate that 'older' women are not
>> looking for a permanent meal ticket.
>
> I can't imagine what younger men appreciate. I'm that far away from the
> mindset.
>
I suppose the flip side of the coin would be younger women looking for a
meal ticket from someone old enough to be her father.

Jill