On Tue, 12 Nov 2013 14:33:45 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
> wrote:

>
>"Karen" > wrote in message
.. .
>> On Mon, 11 Nov 2013 23:15:52 -0800, in alt.food.diabetic, "Julie Bove"
>> > wrote:
>>
>>>
>>>"Alice Faber" > wrote in message
...
>>>> In article >,
>>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> "W. Baker" > wrote in message
>>>>> ...
>>>>> > Julie,
>>>>> >
>>>>> > Please let us know. Are you just complaining to get it off your
>>>>> > chest
>>>>> > or
>>>>> > are you asking for advice? Your post is not clear on that so we
>>>>> > don't
>>>>> > knwo if we should just shut up and listen or should offer you some
>>>>> > suggestions if we have them.
>>>>>
>>>>> I thought it was pretty clear. Yes, I am complaining. I did ask for
>>>>> suggestions but I have a feeling there is no answer to this. He won't
>>>>> eat
>>>>> hummus, any dips, raw veggies, salad, stir fries... I did buy 5
>>>>> different
>>>>> prepared salads of fruit, nuts and meats, also fruit like Waldorf and a
>>>>> vegetable slaw. Also a prepared chef's salad.
>>>>>
>>>>> Not really sure what else there is. Angela and I mainly eat either
>>>>> canned
>>>>> green beans, other beans or raw veggies. He said he won't eat beans
>>>>> either.
>>>>> Would not touch the bean relish that I made.
>>>>>
>>>>> We are not fruit lovers so I don't want to buy fruit to have to throw
>>>>> it
>>>>> out. I did buy two cups of watermelon. He did just eat one. And I
>>>>> bought
>>>>> cottage cheese with pineapple.
>>>>>
>>>>> I think it might all boil down to him being as my FIL used to put it,
>>>>> "difficult". Perhaps if someone could just agree with me on that, it
>>>>> would
>>>>> help. Because he is making me feel like *I* am doing something wrong
>>>>> by
>>>>> not
>>>>> giving him the right food. But... If he can't tell me what the right
>>>>> food
>>>>> is, specifically, then I am always wrong. Right? I think...
>>>>
>>>> Stop trying to read his mind! Let him go grocery shopping himself.
>>>>
>>>He won't and currently can't. He is at the moment more disabled than me
>>>but
>>>won't get into that here.
>>
>> Can you give him pen and paper and have him write suggested veggies
>> and fruit and work off of his list? Then if he complains tell him to
>> be quiet. At that point if he still complains you know he is either
>> just a cranky old man (yes, younger ones can be that ;-) or just
>> being difficult to annoy you.
>
>I have tried that and I do tell him to shut up all the time. I do know he
>is suffering right now but there is nothing I can do about that. I have
>tried to buy/feed him only the foods that are purported not to make his
>medical condition worse and perhaps even make it better but he does not want
>those foods. Alas his favorite foods only aggravate the condition and
>won't be a party to that.

Sorry. I don't know what to say then. It sounds like no matter what
you do he will be unhappy. Just do the best you can and try not to
take it personal.