"Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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> "Paul M. Cook" > wrote in message
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>> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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>>> Do you have problems like this? A few things come to mind immediately.
>>> Polenta, black beans, black eyed peas, hominy. Yes, I can eat some of
>>> these things by myself but it does get annoying to always make different
>>> meals. And sometimes I just want what I want! I will sometimes eat
>>> things that I'm not so fond of but that they like, just so I don't have
>>> to make another meal.
>>>
>>> But tonight? I made a meal for them. Found a recipe for lemony basmati
>>> brown rice that sounded divine! And it was, IMO. Will post if anyone
>>> wants it. I did try it before I put the butter in as I can not eat
>>> butter. Yummmmmmy! Daughter took a bite and refused to eat it. Said it
>>> was too lemony. That's exactly what I loved about it! Husband said he
>>> didn't like it because it was too buttery. Although he did eat every
>>> speck of it. So... *sigh* One day I will make this just for me and use
>>> olive oil or margarine instead of the butter. But I don't know when
>>> because I rarely eat rice as a side dish. Usually only when made as a
>>> main dish.
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>> We've been down this road before. They do it to keep you on a leash and
>> subservient to them. It is a mind game and you are losing. Very much
>> like passive aggressive but by proxy. The proxy being food. Your
>> family's food issues are a genuine psychosis.
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> That could be part of it. But there are also picky eaters in my family.


Johns Hopkins would love to interview your family. There are picky eaters,
and trust me I know many. Then there is the Bove clan. I am not picking on
you. But to think this is anything but a psychosis is just fooling
yourself.

I've been there. I make a damn fine tiramisu. I use fine French cognac and
it is divine. A regular at our eat-ins loved it *until* she detected I was
pleased and interested that she would like my tiramisu and actively tried to
ply her good graces with it. She never ate a bite again. Turned it away
like it was garbage from then on. When it became a reciprocation of
friendship she wanted nothing to do with it.

Same here. Preparing food for others is an act of love. What better tool
to use against someone than their own love?

It sucks, Jules. It sucks.