"Brooklyn1" > wrote in message
...
> "Ophelia" wrote:
>>"Gary" wrote:
>>> Julie Bove wrote:
>>>>
>>>> If I ask for help, then I want the help. But if I haven't asked for
>>>> help,
>>>> then the help isn't help. To me it is someone else trying to get me to
>>>> do
>>>> what they want me to do. Like a control thing.
>>>
>>> yeah. Years ago, when my daughter had some problem, she would tell me
>>> about
>>> it and I would end up giving her my advice. And she would resent my
>>> "intrusion" and telling her what she should do. But I was just drawing
>>> on
>>> my life experiences to try to help her. She saw it as control...telling
>>> her
>>> what to do. Eventually I realized that she just needed to "vent" to
>>> someone....get her thoughts out of her system but she didn't want any
>>> solutions. Being a good parent is an ongoing education.
>>
>>Beautifully said, Gary!! A lesson some people would do well to learn))
>
> Couldn't be more incorrect. Anyone who expresses that they have a
> problem in any venue (especially on usenet) should expect opinions in
> return. If they don't want to hear suggestions then they should just
> STFU. You wanna vent, make an appointment with Dr. Phil... and he
> will definitely tell you exactly where to stuff your problems. And
> most times Julie does ask for help, and then when anyone offers her
> solutions she tells them they are wrong... Julie is a troll, an
> ingrate, both... she has never yet thanked anyone for their assistance
> nor has she ever offered solutions to anyones query... Julie is a self
> centered, user-abuser.

I hardly think that Dr. Phil would be the one to vent to. I freaking can't
*stand* that man and for more reasons than one. He is a control freak to be
sure.

In this thread, I did not ask for any help at all. Did I? And yet the
replies ranged from advice on our food choices and the amount of time we
spend on shopping to my daughter's dance lessons! And the way I am raising
her in regards to her choice of being a dancer! Those things veered way off
topic and there was flat out no reason for them. And now Jill is going on
about some things I said years ago in the chat! These things have nothing
to do with processed foods. Oh and you Sheldon... You even diagnosed *me*
with something!