"Ophelia" wrote:
>"Gary" wrote:
>> Julie Bove wrote:
>>>
>>> If I ask for help, then I want the help. But if I haven't asked for
>>> help,
>>> then the help isn't help. To me it is someone else trying to get me to
>>> do
>>> what they want me to do. Like a control thing.
>>
>> yeah. Years ago, when my daughter had some problem, she would tell me
>> about
>> it and I would end up giving her my advice. And she would resent my
>> "intrusion" and telling her what she should do. But I was just drawing on
>> my life experiences to try to help her. She saw it as control...telling
>> her
>> what to do. Eventually I realized that she just needed to "vent" to
>> someone....get her thoughts out of her system but she didn't want any
>> solutions. Being a good parent is an ongoing education.
>
>Beautifully said, Gary!! A lesson some people would do well to learn))

Couldn't be more incorrect. Anyone who expresses that they have a
problem in any venue (especially on usenet) should expect opinions in
return. If they don't want to hear suggestions then they should just
STFU. You wanna vent, make an appointment with Dr. Phil... and he
will definitely tell you exactly where to stuff your problems. And
most times Julie does ask for help, and then when anyone offers her
solutions she tells them they are wrong... Julie is a troll, an
ingrate, both... she has never yet thanked anyone for their assistance
nor has she ever offered solutions to anyones query... Julie is a self
centered, user-abuser.