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jmcquown[_2_]

On 3/2/2013 9:33 AM, wrote:
> On Sat, 02 Mar 2013 08:27:16 -0500, jmcquown >
> wrote:
>
>> On 3/1/2013 3:48 PM, wrote:
>>>
>>>
>>> DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am old enough to recall when guests came first.
>>> Drop-ins might have been unexpected, but never unwanted or unwelcome.
>>> The family made accommodations as if they had been invited -- even if
>>> guests got most of the meal or the children of the household ate peanut
>>> butter sandwiches.
>>>
>>> Nowadays the family's schedule comes first, and drop-ins might not even
>>> be invited in for a brief chat and coffee. Calling first does not mean
>>> they will be welcome either.
>>>
>>>
>>> While I'd like to agree with Miss Manners, I suspect that what the writer
>>> meant was that he/she lived in a rural area where few people had phones
>>> - maybe in the 1950s? - and that kids, unlike now, were expected to make
>>> sacrifices for adults all the time, so it would have been considered rude
>>> for the "hosts" to make the "guests" eat the PBJ sandwiches instead.
>> I only
>>> wish MM had not ignored that possibility; it would have made for a more
>>> interesting explanation of how and why times change.
>>>
>>> Lenona.
>>>
>> (attempted to "fix" the GoogleGroups line-wrap crap, hopefully)
>>
>> It doesn't really matter why things have changed, does it? Fact is,
>> they have. This *isn't* the 1950's. IMHO it's rude to show up
>> unannounced (*especially* around dinner time). I don't consider people
>> like that "guests".
>>
>> Jill
>
> i say 'freezer' !!! i love people to drop in, friends or family - i
> have dishes in the freezer i can nuke to unfreeze then bake or
> whatever.
>
> what greater joy than sharing food together ?
>
> (sorry about lack of caps but hand is casted for next 3 weeks)
>
I'm sorry about your hand. I hope it heals quickly.

The "greater joy" of sharing food with someone I didn't invite? No.
I'm also not going to have a coffee cake or apple crisp in the freezer.
You know, something to serve with the coffee I wouldn't have otherwise
brewed. Because someone dropped by.

IMHO this sort of behaviour is intrusive.

Jill